So. we are having a destination wedding and have told everyone about it for over 9 months. plenty of time to plan an save. Well i have a bridesmaid. the one i have done the most planning with, since the other 2 are out of state. Today she sends me an email saying she cant make it since she lost her job(this wasnt a surprise, she thought it was going to happen for a few months). Well i understand that things are tighter, but her and her husband make twice what me and my FI do. and she buys new crap all the time, just because she likes it. How do i deal with her? and how do i ask her to pay me for the dress i ordered for her?because she told me a month ago she is for sure coming(i am paying for the dresses and suits since they are paying for there trip)