I'm in a bridal party dilemna. Let me tell you my initial decision for chosing bridesmaids and then tell you the complicating issues and you tell me if I should change my mind. In my current bridal party I have 4 people- my sister, my best friend (of about 12-13 years), and my fiance's 2 sisters. My fiance has a grooms party of 5 (2 brothers-in-law, 1 brother, 2 best friends). I decided to pick my bridesmaids based on family and included the 1 friend who I feel most connected with, who has been with me through ups and downs.
Here's where the complications come in... I have a friend who is the fiance of my fiance's best friend. We've been able to bond through the past months, helping each other with the wedding, with personal issues, and such. She's asked me to be one of her bridesmaids, but I just don't feel like I should ask her to be one of mine. She's been a great help with the wedding and we've included each other on a lot related to each others' wedding but I don't know if our friendship will really last past the weddings... is there a way I can make her feel included (and appreciated) in my wedding but without making her a bridesmaid?