Long vent, sorry. My bachelorette party is this Sat Mar 5. Excited? Eh....
MOH called dibs on planning/orchestrating my bachelorette party like 6 months ago... Turned down all offers of help from the other BMs and friends who were delighted to lend a hand... And has put on airs about being MOH off & on since we announced the WP (I've had to talk with her about it a few times - per her request FYI, not putting my nose in where I shouldn't
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So. Picked out the date for the b-party about 2.5-3mos ago (same day as FI's b-party). MOH still wanted to run it. Time ticks by, FI's BM sends out his invites, still no word from my MOH. I meet her for coffee every week to unwind and she keeps telling me how she's trying to save up some money, has no time, etc. etc. (She doesn't work and has recently graduated college... But that's her own business not mine anyways.) I remind her of the other girls' willingness to help and she says she can handle it.
4 weeks to B-Party: I remind MOH that alot of ppl work on Saturdays and need advanced notice to take off of work. (Also, one of my friends lives across the state.) MOH says she still doesn't have the funds to organize the party and asks for the other girls' numbers to call tonight. Huzzah!
3.5wks to B-Party: Through a series of texts I learn from other BMs that MOH has still not contacted them. After a couple of days' reflection and getting input from you lovely ladies on TK I give BMs MOH's number and get out of the middle.
3wks to B-Party: BMs call MOH and meet w/her to nail down all the details. MOH is to send out invites to the guest list I provided her with a couple months ago.
1.5wks to B-Party: I hear that invites have finally been received...
...and...
Yesterday I discover that MOH did not even make sure to send invites to everyone on the list. In fact, she neglected to send an invite to FI's BM's wife - a good friend of mine, one of the girls who had also offered to throw the party for me in her place. I quadruple-checked my address list and she is indeed on there. />>sigh<<
I know there's nothing I can do about it...just frustrated that she's been bragging about being MOH and what a good friend she is to me for 6mos and yet didn't care enough to make sure things were taken care of on a reasonable timeline or make sure everyone who needed to get invited got an invite. This wasn't something I made her do - I offered for her to back out or change plans plenty of times - ugh.
In a way, I wish I had picked someone else to be my MOH, just so I wouldn't have had to deal with the many petty/catty things she's done/said over the last several months.
Anways, so now that I got all that out I will carry on and get over it like a big girl and have a grand ol time at my bachelorette party, regardless of who is able to make it. Thanks for listening girls