I'm from India. Here the bride pays for BM's dresses, shoes, hair, the works, yeah also the bachelorette party. So I have a MatronOH, MOH, but the BM's aren't chosen yet. so two of my aunts had asked me quite a few years ago to have their daughters as BM's when i get married. I didnt commit. one of them is sister of MOH. Now here's the thing I dont really have anyone else in mind but these two dont really fit into my vision (if you know what I mean).
Both are students, one is super skinny n tall, has very poor body posture (stoops with tummy sticking out), mmm not many dresses would flatter her figure, and has been BM for many of my relative's weddings (courtesy her pushy mom)
The MOH's sister has a serious BO problem. I once drove with only her in my car to a wedding with the ac on full blast, but i could still smell the odor, this after 15 mins of her having a bath n yes she was wearing perfume. I did speak to her sister about it but she told me that her sister doesnt take personal grooming seriously, plus she wont wear halter or sleeveless for that matter, n no she doesnt keep her underarms groomed. And also she's dark skinned so she's too particular about the color she wears. I have chosen deep brown n gold accents as my theme colors but she wont wear anything dark.
Her mother played the 'my younger daughter has never been BM' card. MOH n sis live in another state. MOH will make it, but the sis will still have college, so may not be able to make it for the pre wedding festivities.
Both me n my fiance r mmmm 'smell sensitive' LOL.
The 2 aunts believe that just coz they asked, their daughters automatically are chosen to be BM. I do have nieces the same age as the cousins, that I'd rather ask altho I'm not close to them.
Question is do I and how to let my aunts down without being rude? I feel guilty for not wanting them, but I think I will feel worse with the things i'd have to deal with if I do hav them as BM.