WPBP of the day

stina93446

Do you still talk with any of your exes?

Were they/Are they invited to the wedding?

A good breakup story if you have one:

Your favorite thing about being married/not being single is __________.

suz62984

Still talk to your exes?I haven't in a while but I am friendly with them if I see them or hear from them on Facebook.

Were they invited to the wedding? No

A good breakup story?I don't know that I have a good breakup story. My most recent ex and I never broke up though. We had been dating for 8+ months. During Christmas break at school we went home; we are from the same place so we made plans to meet up after each of our family celebrations. Neither of us called the other one and by the time we got back from break we just started doing our own thing. We ran into each other later a few weeks later with our new SOs. Both of us are now married to those same SOs. It was strange but I guess it worked out.

Favorite thing about being married?Feeling comfortable around someone. When you are dating you have to worry about the other person seeing you sick/without makeup/etc, hurting their feelings, will they get your sense of humor, etc. I love being able to come home and feel comfortable with DH.

jagore08

Do you still talk with any of your exes?

Nope.

Were they/Are they invited to the wedding?

Nope.

A good breakup story if you have one:

Not really 

Your favorite thing about being married/not being single is being able to talk to him about anything.  I share a lot of stuff with my girlfriends but I can truly tell anything to DH.

emilyinchile

Do you still talk with any of your exes? Yup, one I consider a good friend and one I'm in touch with occasionally (he's now dating a girl who's also a friend, and I think they might be about to get engaged in Paris this weekend - I'll be so excited for them if it ends up happening!)

Were they/Are they invited to the wedding? The good friend was invited to the CA reception, Paris boy wasn't.

A good breakup story if you have one: Nope, no good stories, sorry.

Your favorite thing about being married/not being single is having a partner. Obviously I love my husband for more than that, but I think the real difference to me between this and previous relationships is that feeling of every challenge being a team challenge with someone who's there to help me out if I need it, whether that means walking the dog on a morning I'm extra tired or helping out with life's big problems.

baystateapple

Do you still talk with any of your exes? I (unfortunately) volunteer with one of my exes.  And the only other one I talk to is one of my best friends.

Were they/Are they invited to the wedding? My best friend ex is my florist, so yes!

A good breakup story if you have one: I don't.  Except that I kicked my first ex in the balls after he tried to get lucky with me after he cheated on me and dumped me, and the girl he dumped me for didn't want anything to do with him.

Your favorite thing about being married/not being single is NEVER HAVING TO DATE AGAIN.

lalap69

Do you still talk with any of your exes?  I still talk to my one ex occassionaly, usually through facebook.  We've gotten together for coffee and whatnot a few times since we broke up, but it's been a year since the last time.

Were they/Are they invited to the wedding?  No, we're not having any exes at our wedding because neither of us is close to any of ours.

A good breakup story if you have one:  I don't have any, sorry.

Your favorite thing about being married/not being single is having someone who completely gets me and having someone to cuddle with at night.

stina93446

Do you still talk with any of your exes? Not so much anymore. My last ex was a good friend of mine and he was all gung ho with being friends until I was getting married. Apparently, he was not over me and his friends told me at the wedding that he couldn't stand to see me getting married to someone else.
Were they/Are they invited to the wedding? Yes, I invited him not knowing that he was not over me.
A good breakup story if you have one: Well, it's not good from my point of view, but I got dumped in front of a McDonalds. Classy, right?
Your favorite thing about being married/not being single is always having someone to talk to you, and to have someone that loves you no matter what....my farts the other night were epic and he stayed by my side.

Manwaithiel

Do you still talk with any of your exes? Nope. We pretty much drifted apart.

Were they/Are they invited to the wedding? No. One of FI's is. I can't say I'm super thrilled about it but I'm not necessarily unhappy about it either. Just, meh.

A good breakup story if you have one: They were all pretty bad. Then again, I've only had 3 boyfriends before FI.

Your favorite thing about being married/not being single is my FI. He is seriously the most supportive human being on the planet.

Licia&Wayne

Do you still talk with any of your exes? Nope.

Were they/Are they invited to the wedding? Uhhh no.

A good breakup story if you have one: I've been dumped via text message, and it was in the early years of cell phones, so you can imagine how ridiculous that was.

Your favorite thing about being married/not being single is having/being someone to lean on. It's awesome to know you'll never have to go it alone.

stina93446

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: WPBP of the day : Hahahaha, that's awesome, Stina! Now that's love. <3
Posted by lalap69[/QUOTE]

<div>For real. I mean, these were disgusting. I had a little cheesecake that day and it didn't agree with me. He almost left the bed to sleep on the couch. It was worse than the dog's poop.</div>

frogurt814

Do you still talk with any of your exes? On facebook every now and then or if I run into one of them somewhere.

Were they/Are they invited to the wedding? No.  We did invite one of H's ex's and her husband.  We are actually pretty good friends with them.

A good breakup story if you have one: Nope.  Nothing interesting.

Your favorite thing about being married/not being single is everything.  I can't pick one thing.  It's pretty much a combination of what everyone has said.

jaimed99

Do you still talk with any of your exes? Yeah, a couple of them...mostly my first ex-husband, because we have a daughter together and his wife and I are very good friends (she is my matron of honor and their son is a ring bearer)
Were they/Are they invited to the wedding? Well, since etiquette will tell me that I can't split couples, I kind of have to, don't I? hahaha...he'd be invited anyway, because we get along pretty well
A good breakup story if you have one: The guy I lost my V to broke up with me while I was on a pay phone before I went to work...and it was raining...and I had to go to work all upset because of it...that was fantastic...
Your favorite thing about being married/not being single is not feeling the need to impress someone to get their attention

newyearnewfamily

Do you still talk with any of your exes? I still talk to all of my exes. I never just dated a guy just to date a guy though. I was always friends with my ex before we started dating. We always split up on good terms and have remained friends.

Were they/Are they invited to the wedding? I do have a few that will be attending the wedding but their family is still close to mine. And of the few that are invited, I haven't dated them in 10+ years.

A good breakup story if you have one: I think the best break up story would be with my first boyfriend in college. We dated for a year and this is when I was coaching a competitive sport so I was out of town every weekend. He did not like this and always complained that I was never around enough. Well, when I was out of town for nationals for my sporting event. My so-called best friend (who lived with me for a few years) calls me and tells me that she was currently in bed with my boyfriend. (what a great friend that was). Suprisingly, I really wasn't affected that much. That is when I knew me and ex were better friends than partners.  

Your favorite thing about being married/not being single is everything! I love my fiance and can not wait to marry him. He makes me want to be a better person every day. I could not ask for more.

tldh

Do you still talk with any of your exes?

No

Were they/Are they invited to the wedding?

No

A good breakup story if you have one:

Not really a breakup story but I had just started dating an attorney who had been eying me and came into the courtroom to watch some of one of my trials.  We went out to lunch a few days later and I got suspicious that something was up because when he went to pay the bill, he had just enough cash that had clearly just come from an ATM.  Made me suspect someone else was paying the wallet full of credit cards and balancing the check card.

I went back to my office and did what friends would come to call "The Full Tricia Due Diligence Background Check." 

We went out to dinner a couple night later and I made a point to order the most expensive lobster dinner on the menu.  I began asking a few nonpointed questions which were making him uncomfortable.  He asked what did I really want to know?  "Okay", I said, "You want to run down the list, we'll run down the list.  You married?"  After 47 second with sweat forming on his brow he said, "I can explain."

By that point, both bartenders had moved down to one end of the bar to hear this and all the other conversations at surrounding tables had stopped.  I told him that I had looked up marriage licenses, property records and utility bills.  His house was deeded to both him and his wife and the utility bills were in her name so I knew she still lived there.  All this was told to him in pieces after every lie, starting with the one that he was separated.

After that he gave me a song and dance that they were only staying married for her sick father's sake and were going to be getting divorced after he died.

Oh, it also came out under questioning that he already had another girlfriend who had just moved to take at job in another city.

Dead silence in the restaurant when I stood up to walk out.  He looked at me and said, "So I guess I'll never see you again."

"You think?!?!?  You know, I don't know which insults me more: that you thought I'd be a mistress or that you thought I'd be so stupid, I wouldn't figure this out.  Your bad luck that I figured it all at in a little more than an hour"
 
No need to throw a drink on him because what happened next was worse.  One of my best friends from law school happens to be married to a judge.  When he found out what happened (and wanted to kill the guy) he told his wife (who is not a judge you want to piss off under the best of circumstances) who then told every other judge. 

Attorney boy kept stalking me to try to talk to me.  Any time he got within 20 feet, a judge would pull me inside chambers or a staff attorney or bailiff would detain him for some reason.  His reputation took one hell of a hit with the worst people possible.

Your favorite thing about being married/not being single is
Having a real partner in everything.  Also, my favorite movie line is in When Harry Met Sally when Marie says to Jess, "Promise me I'll never be out there again."

jaimed99

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[QUOTE]His reputation took one hell of a hit with the worst people possible.
Posted by tldh[/QUOTE]

<div>That is freaking EPIC!!! If I ever need a lawyer, I want you! LOL :)</div></div>

megk8oz

Do you still talk with any of your exes?
Nope. I only have one ex that I actually "count" (There were a few guys I went on like one or 2 dates with and never talked to again, but only 1 serious BF before DH) ... and I actually have a restraining order on him.
 
Were they/Are they invited to the wedding?
No, for obvious reasons, as well as some not-so-obvious ones

A good break up story, if you have one:
Ok, so this is is a bit long but it's very good as far as the "Wtf?" factor goes: I was actually very briefly engaged to the aforementioned ex. We had been together on and off for 3 years at that point, the "off" always being caused by him being a lying, cheating abusive scumbag. In addition to everything else, he had this "ex-girlfriend" that he cheated on me with on more than one occasion. He pretty much kept telling me that they were broken up, but she had no self-esteem since he'd dumped her and constantly stalked him and called him up threatening to kill herself if he didn't get back together with her ... sadly, when this girl started calling me on a regular basis threatening to stay away from him, I found out that his story was actually kind of true.

Anyway. Her birthday was the first week of January. He proposes on Christmas Eve, I stupidly accept. About 2 days after Christmas, he starts constantly  picking fights with me, and pretty much kept saying "Well, you can always give the ring back if you can't accept me this way!". It finally came out like 2 days before her birthday that he essentially promised her a proposal for her birthday and could only afford to buy one ring, so he wanted me to hand over the one he gave me so he could give it to her ... "but don't worry, baby, I really do love you more than anything and I'll get it back to you in time for Valentine's Day, I swear". Yeah, I was officially done after that. I started dating DH barely a month later and never looked back.

P.S. For anybody that's wondering, I totally kept the ring to spite him. I wound up selling it when DH and I were planning our wedding and I used the money to buy the BM jewelry. 

Your favorite thing about being married/not being single is:
Having somebody awesome that totally "gets" me and thinks I'm just the bees knees, in spite of my many flaws.

tldh

Meg - I swear your DH must be an angel because you clearly went through hell to get him.

megk8oz

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[QUOTE]Meg - I swear your DH must be an angel because you clearly went through hell to get him.
Posted by tldh[/QUOTE]

DH is amazing, he really is. When we first started dating, nobody thought we stood a chance in hell for a number of reasons ... and the truth is, on paper, it really did look like a recipe for disaster:  the fact that my ex used to be his best friend (I actually wasn't the reason they stopped being friends), DH having a nasty break up not too long before mine, my ex actively trying to break us up and then all of the healing I needed to do ... not exactly something normal people would react to by saying "Hey, now's a good time to try diving into a serious relationship", lol.

But at the time, we just both felt like the universe was giving us an opportunity that we couldn't walk away from. There was obviously tons of drama we had to work through in the first few months, but we really just kept saying "If we can survive this, we're going to make it". We just kept believing our relationship was worth it ... and we were right: it was.<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />

megk8oz

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[QUOTE]Tricia, I fuzzy pink heart you.  That story is amazing. Posted by aerinpegadrak[/QUOTE]

I also have to whole heartedly agree with this statement. Your story was just plain bad ass.

SSaltzman87

Do you still talk with any of your exes? Some of them, yea.

Were they/Are they invited to the wedding? One might be.

A good breakup story if you have one: It's not exactly a breakup, but a few years ago I was talking to this guy who seemed real cool and nice. About a week later, he asks if I wanna go see a movie-I say sure. So I'm heading over to the theater, I walk up to the entrance to wait for him. As I see who I think is him (we had been talking just online), I see a bunch of people behind him and wonder 'wtf'. He comes right up to me and tells me that these other people were his family members! Mom, dad, brother, sister, niece and nephew-the whole nine yards. Needless to say, I was COMPLETELY weirded out!

I didn't have the balls to leave right then, especially since he had already bought my ticket-so I went to the movie with them. His mom sat on one side of me, and the guy sat on the other side.

When the movie ended, I bolted out of the theater as fast as I could. Didn't say goodbye to him or anyone else. I of course, never called him again.

Your favorite thing about being married/not being single is No longer searching for my soulmate :-)

frogurt814

Meg, I love the fact that you kept the ring.  Awesome.

jenn.daniel

Do you still talk with any of your exes? yup.  I'm still pretty good friends with one of them, and we talk occassionally.  After undergrad, we were both in the same area for a year, so we hung out a couple of times too.  I dated one guy in college who was also a chem major, so we were at a lot of the same events.

Were they/Are they invited to the wedding?  haven't decided about the first guy I was talking about.  the other one, no.

A good breakup story if you have one: not quite a breakup story but...

I mentioned I dated another chem major for a few months.  After I broke up with him, we were both at the campus restaraunt with other students and faculty from the dept.  FI (then BF) was w/me (bio, but he knew a lot of chem people too.  FI and I were talking w/one of the profs, and he asks, "Weren't you dating [insert name]?"  "Yes."  Right in front of FI.  I mean, FI knew we'd dated (they were casual friends), but it wasn't something we talked about.

Your favorite thing about being married/not being single is knowing he'll be there for me 50 years from now.

megk8oz

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[QUOTE]Meg, I love the fact that you kept the ring.  Awesome.
Posted by frogurt814[/QUOTE]


Needed to be done. I mean, come on, you want to propose to 2 different girls, within a 2 week time span, at least have the common decency to get them each their own ring, lol.

It's bad manners to be unfaithful,  but it's downright insulting to be unfaithful and cheap <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />

SassyBrass

Do you still talk with any of your exes?

A decent number of them yes. I didn't have serious relationships with them so we're all good with one another.
The only other serious relationship I had other than H is someone I don't talk to anymore, although we still share mutual friends. Too bad though, he was a nice person. I wouldn't mind being his friend still.
I'm a peaceful person, I haven't had a relationship with anyone who is a jerk.
A few dates with jerks, sure. But never any official boyfriend like that.

Were they/Are they invited to the wedding?
None of them were actually going to be able to make is since it was a DW, but it wouldn't have been an issue if they could've made it happen.

A good breakup story if you have one:
I got nothin... dumped over the phone once? That's about it.

Your favorite thing about being married/not being single is
Getting to hang out with my best friend all the time. He's there to travel with, to tell my concerns to, to meet for lunch. It's all the good and the bad, and it's good to have someone there to listen or help or have a great time with.

stina93446

Yeah, I take it from the number of comments that this was a good topic. I wish all of them were this successful. It's hard though, sometimes. It's hard to ask questions that won't cause a ton of controversy. Thanks for answering, ladies. Very entertaining.