Convincing Fiance

bibliophile2010

Even though I've told him a million times that uneven parties are fine, my fiance is convinced that an even wedding party is going to be better. I really don't want him to feel obligated to invite or not invite people to be on his side just because I have x people on my side.

How do I convince him to drink the WP Board juice and ask who he wants to ask without worrying about the number on my side?

jaimed99

Just show him one of the many posts on this board and let him see that it's totally common for WPs to be uneven. You can also Google "uneven wedding parties" and show him photos of weddings with uneven parties.

mbcdefg

"WHy does a number matter to you more than your friendships with people?"

"Wouldn't YOU be insulted if a good friend left you out of his wedding, or if a not-so-close friend asked you to be an obvious slot-filler, all in the name of evenness?"

"Do you really think our guests are going to be sitting there and counting heads instead of watching us get married?"

Cynthia1207

I had this same problem with my FI.  He wants 3 on his side, I want 2.  He was telling me that I ''have to add someone else''.  I said: ''NO.  I will not have someone there who is there to fill a hole.  Those 2 are the ones I want and that's that.  I don't care if you have one more on your side. If you're adamant about even sides, you cut one person.''  That worked pretty well.  He's never mentioned anything about me having to add someone else after that.

aerinpegadrak

Pictures pictures pictures.  Gather as many pictures as you possibly can of uneven wedding parties and attendants tripled up for the processional, and show him all the threads you can find on the subject.  Overwhelm him with the sheer number of sources that establish that it is 1) becoming quite common and 2) looks completely fine.