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I have included my roommate in my bridal party. At times she can be excited as this is the first wedding that she's been in. Other times, she is very to herself and hardly speaks.
My Aunt told me that some friends take their friends getting married very differently and she may be in a place where she wishes it was her (all of my other BMs either have a boyfriend or their married, but that's my Aunt's opinion).
We don't discuss the wedding, I have a planner so all of the discussion regarding the wedding is done out of the house. I don't have wedding things all over the place, I've even bought a decorative box to place my bridal books and other things in just to be considerate because it's her house too and I don't want to overwhelm her with all of my stuff and have it in the way.
She doesn't respond to emails or messages regarding Bridesmaid things (bridesmaid fitting, shoe ideas). My BMs that live in another city are doing more in regards to helpful planning than she is (It was her idea that all of the BMs plan the Bridal Shower and Bachelorette Party, but she doesn't respond to their questions or inquiries).
When she comes home, she shuts herself in her room and doesn't say a word...It's starting to make me upset and not because of the wedding, just in general.
How do I talk to her about her behavior without being coming off as being rude?