Is there such thing as too many bridesmaids and groomsmen? I don't want to leave anyone out..but I also plan on having everyone pay for their own dress or tux..is that rude? Im having a hard time because many of my girlfriends are expecting to be in the wedding party but I have not formally asked them..how do you tell a friend that she won't be a bridesmaid? And also my fiance and I are in a disagreement because I think he shoudl ask my brother to be a groomsman but he doesn't want him to be. Both of my sisters will be bridesmaids and I think my brother will feel left out if my fiance doesn't ask him. My fiance suggests that my brother just be an usher. I think he is being selfish and should at least consider having my brother, he will be family.