Ok I really need some advice. I have a childhood friend that 4 years ago when my son was born we were still really close and I named her his godmother. Since then I have grown and matured a lot and our relationship has been distant. She lives out of state and I recently took my son to visit her and it was a complete nightmare. The second night at midnight I was on the phone with my fiance' planning my escape. Over the years I have come to realize how controlling and all about her she is. A big part of me loves her like a sister and cherish's the memories we have together, but the other parts of me (newer parts, Mother, fiance, homeowner, ADULT) just don't want to be around such "drama" if you will. I have made the choice not to ask her to be in the bridal party in fear of her being a PWR...(my sister's term "Potential Wedding Ruiner)
A few weekends ago friend called me and immediately began saying how "WE" (her and I) needed to get on the ball and start planning my wedding, and I needed to let her know when we were doing things so she could make plans to come down; I felt compelled to holler at her cause she just assumes she's part of all this. But I now realize that I probably need to talk to her and tell her how I'm feeling. I'm feeling really cold about all of this and hate to say that it's not the fear of losing a friend or hurting her feelings, I JUST DON'T WANT THE DRAMA and GUILT trip I KNOW is going to be put on me. Any advice is appreciated.