Bridal Party Dance

kcronan21

Would it be horrible if I don't have the wedding party dance at the reception? I'm having trouble deciding whether to have the wedding party dance with each other or their SOs. Some of them don't have an SO. Plus I have one girl (possible to be my MOH) that is in a wheelchair and will not be bringing a date. So I am having trouble figuring out how to handle that. Any suggestions?

marissa_claire

I probably won't and I really don't think anyone cares about the WP dance, but that's just my opinion.

MyNameIsNot

People still do WP dances?  

No, no one will care if you skip this thing.  I've never met anyone that liked them, and I haven't been to a wedding with one since the 80's.  

Cynthia1207

I don't think we're having one either.  I find it  a waste of 3 minutes where everyone could be dancing instead of watching...

aerinpegadrak

It would be glorious if you didn't do a bridal party dance.  No one has liked them in the history of ever.

gottahavashorti

It would be absolutely wonderful for you to not have a WP dance.  They are not fun.

emilyinchile

It would only be horrible if you DID have it. I've never seen one in person and hope never to see or do one. It just sounds boring for everyone and awkward for your WP.

deepcovejackie

I would think you're the best bride ever if you didn't have one.

mgietler76

I had to participate in one last year and it was awkward and uncomfortable, and I'm sure the guests didn't want to watch us dancing.

filaw

I'd never heard of it until I came to TK.  No one I knew had ever done it.  We didn't do one either.

stina93446

They suck. Skip it! We did.

kcronan21

I'm feeling better by the minute about not having one. I've never been to a wedding without one so it blew my mind when it was suggested to me today. Weddings in my town are all pretty standard.

frogurt814

I think the area I live in is kind of behind the times.  I've seen WP dances at some of the weddings I've been to, and it always seems awkward.  I would say just skip it.

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Don't put your WP through this. We did not have one. I have never been to a wedding that has had one. Our whole WP ended up dancing with each other at some point during the evening, which was fine, but we didn't make them and have the spotlight on them for it.

tldh

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[QUOTE]Would it be horrible if I don't have the wedding party dance at the reception? I'm having trouble deciding whether to have the wedding party dance with each other or their SOs. Some of them don't have an SO. Plus I have one girl (possible to be my MOH) that is in a wheelchair and will not be bringing a date. So I am having trouble figuring out how to handle that. Any suggestions?
Posted by kcronan21[/QUOTE]

Your guests will thank you if you skip it!!!!! YAAAAAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

emilyinchile

I say this with love because my best friend is from near GR - when in doubt, ask on here, and go with what knotties tell you, not what you've seen at weddings in your hometown. From what she and I have discussed, there are things that people there find really normal (WP dances, dollar dances) that could bore or even really offend any OOT guests you're having.

ehathewa

Skip it - no one will notice or care. 

Beachy730

Honestly I don't think I've ever been to a wedding that didn't have a WP dance.  I've had to do 4 and there was only 1 I liked because I was paired up with one of my best friends so I enjoyed dancing with him.  But other than that they were all awkward, so H and I decided to start the trend amongst our friends of skipping the WP dance and our WP loved us for it.

bablingbrooke

Your WP and guests will thank you for not subjecting them to that 1980s fad.

Soon2BeMrsTing

What IS a BP Dance?  Do you mean a song is chosen for all the BP members to dance to exclusively at once?  That sounds strange and akward to me.  I don't think I've ever witnessed such a thing.

With the weddings I've been in, including DH's and mine, the BP members' names were announced as they made their entrances in pairs, with the MOH and BM making their entrance last.  The same song played during all of this, which took maybe forty-five seconds total.  Each "pair" did come up with a little dance to execute as they were introduced. Some pairs weren't that comfortable dancing, so they kind of just sauntered out there with a smile.

MOH and BM, on the other hand, totally hammed it up:

kcronan21

That's exactly what a BP dance is. Typically, after the first dance, the bride & groom stay on the dance floor and the BP is introduce as they enter the dance floor. And I have to agree, from a guests standpoint, it's never been fun. I can imagine that from a BP standpoint, it's even worse.

trix1223

I was married in 1978 and didn't have a WP dance then.  Because I hated them when I was in them.  Your WP will be uncomfortable and your guests bored by a WP dance.  And frankly, uncomfortable and boring are not descriptors that I'd want associated with my wedding.