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In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_confused-by-moh-help?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:dcb37a4a-59aa-4110-a2c6-127e13217b91Post:8ba3cb2c-2daf-4256-a8eb-66854064227f">Confused by MOH... Help!</a>:
[QUOTE]I got engaged about a year ago.  The first person I called was my sister, who is my best friend and hero, to tell her the news and ask if she would be my MOH.  I was hers when she got married (shared the honor with her best friend).  She is to share the honor with my best friend, too, but will be standing first.  After a couple months, she started acting different.  Any date I was thinking of setting, first thing she would say was that "she planned to be pregnant."  So finally, after 9 months of debating, I set a date for 13 months out.  She answered that it was a weird venue and that she would probably be pregnant.  She seems uninterested about anything wedding (dress shopping, bridesmaids dresses, decor, etc.).  I make it a point to never bring up the wedding first, always asking about what's going on with her new daughter, etc. because I don't want her to get annoyed.  Finally, I have been battling debilitating health issues for quite some time.  Recently, I decided to change doctors.  My sister called me up very angry about this, said she was tired of my illnesses, used some harsh words, and dropped out of the wedding.  I have not talked to her since, which has been about a month and a half. <strong>What is going on with her?! </strong> I'm so confused.  Even worse, should I plan on her not being there?
Posted by Booms36[/QUOTE]

I don't think any of us can answer that question for sure, but am I reading correctly that she DID get pregnant and now has a baby?  Any chance that she's suffering from PPD?

aerinpegadrak

Ditto Mrs. B.  I don't think anyone but your sister can really say what's going on with her, unless there's another family member or friend that might have some idea.  Short of going to one of them, the only thing to do is try to get in touch with her directly.

DeannaCW

I really couldn't tell you either, but having a chronic illness as well, some people just can't handle it.  Some folks just don't get that some illnesses stick around, they have it in their head that either it will kill you or you'll get better, when that's really not the case.

Still trying to figure out why she keeps saying she plans to be pregnant, like it's some big problem. Nothing wrong with a pregnant MOH.

Since it's been a month and a half, maybe reach out to her? Just say you miss her and ask how she's doing, nothing else, and see how she responds.

aerinpegadrak

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_confused-by-moh-help?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:dcb37a4a-59aa-4110-a2c6-127e13217b91Post:f570770a-a5c7-484b-bd5d-3a8f7e8d4cd1">Re: N</a>:
[QUOTE]Why on earth did you DD, OP?  No one was mean or rude to you, so why be rude to us by deleting the post?
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

She might have been afraid that her sister would see.  It's been quoted, though.