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How to make two MOHs feel special...

My MOH decision was really difficult because I have one sister, who I am semi-close with, and a BFF that I have known since kindergarten who is an only child and we talk on the phone EVERY day.  I was my BFFs MOH last year in her wedding (though I realize that isn't necessarily relevant).  After a long difficult period of deliberating I decided to have them both as my MOHs, even though I know my BFF will likely end up being the one to fulfill all the MOH duties (arranging my shower, bach-party, etc.).  However, even though both girls are MOHs, it seems to me that one of them will end up appearing to be the primary MOH in the wedding (ie, the one who walks down the aisle with the best man and stands closest to me), and I think that this person needs to be my sister (the best man is DF's bro). How can I make both MOHs feel special, even though my sis will be the one walking down with the best man? Is this even possible or am I out of luck?  I just don't want my BFF to think that I am only having her as MOH so that I still end up with a shower and a b-party despite my flaky sister.  Thanks guys!

Re: How to make two MOHs feel special...

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    Ask the friend to give the reception toast, and she can be the one introduced with the Best Man at the reception if you don't want to have him escort both Maids of Honor.
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    I am also having two MOH...my best friend and my cousin. You have already made them special by choosing them to be MOH IMO. Also, I hope that your BFF has already volunteered for those "duties" because they are not obligations for the MOH or BMs. They are a gift to you as the bride and they should not be forced to do them.

    My MOHs plan on helping each other plan the parties and they're even going to do a joint speech at the reception. It's whatever they want to do for me and I am super appreciative of anything they can do.
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    You can have one stand next to you and the other witness your marriage license!
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    having the title should already make them feel special.  I'm having two MOHs, one will be standing next to me and holding the ring; the other will sign our marriage license and do the train adjusting/bustling (not that this is really an 'honor', but typically the MOH is the one who steps out of the line to do that, so...)

    They're both giving speeches; they're planning the parties together; they'll both be listed in the program as MOH and be introduced at the reception as MOH.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_two-mohs-feel-special?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:dcb69ad0-cc62-4611-b080-75911847ba3cPost:0a8aa749-724d-4385-b320-c118ca79989a">How to make two MOHs feel special...</a>:
    [QUOTE]My MOH decision was really difficult because I have one sister, who I am semi-close with, and a BFF that I have known since kindergarten who is an only child and we talk on the phone EVERY day.  I was my BFFs MOH last year in her wedding (though I realize that isn't necessarily relevant).  After a long difficult period of deliberating I decided to have them both as my MOHs, ev<strong>en though I know my BFF will likely end up being the one to fulfill all the MOH duties (arranging my shower, bach-party, etc.). </strong> However, even though both girls are MOHs, it seems to me that one of them will end up appearing to be the primary MOH in the wedding (ie, the one who walks down the aisle with the best man and stands closest to me), and I think that this person needs to be my sister (the best man is DF's bro). How can I make both MOHs feel special, even though my sis will be the one walking down with the best man? Is this even possible or am I out of luck?  I just don't want my BFF to think that I am only having her as MOH so that I still end up with a shower and a b-party despite my flaky sister.  Thanks guys!
    Posted by evilc123[/QUOTE]

    There are no MOH duties like you speak of. These are OPTIONAL things one or both or neither can choose to do or not do.

    My FI has two best men and they are each giving a short toast. If they both want to speak, they could. I also think just the title of MOH makes them "special" and you don't have to do anything else to set them apart.


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    I'm also having two MOH's. I decided one would be closer to me during the ceremony, and the other would be at reception during dinner. They both liked the idea. 
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    Similar situation.  I was much closer to my BF then my sister.  BF stood next to me during the ceremony, and sister signed the licesnse and gave the toast at the reception.
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