Can not decide on a BM dress

akenny

I am driving myself crazy!! I have had my sister try on several dresses, and we're down to 2.  I like both of them, and I can't decide.  I want something that everyone is going to be comfortable in.  MOH #1 (sister) likes both, MOH #2 likes dress #2.  I don't know if dress #2 will look right with everyone's body type, but it compliments my dress more then dress #1.  What does everyone think?

Dress #1

Dress #2

mbcdefg

Did you ask your other BMs to vote, or to at least give their opinion? Did the other BMs even get to try these dresses on?

It's not the most important thing that it goes with your own gown. It's most important that it flatters your bridesmaids and they like it. It wouldn't be right to stick them in something you know is unflattering, just because it echoes your own gown a bit better (and, really, nobody would ever notice such a thing anyway).

Why don't you let them each pick which dress they want, and order them in the same color? Those dresses look pretty identical, and that way you get some coordination (with the same color/length) but the girls can wear individually flattering dresses.

Did you ask them all for their budgets before you started looking at dresses? Are you sure they can all afford either of these dresses? Don't just assume what's "affordable" for them, if you haven't already talked to them about money.

Ask your bridesmaids, not us. If you've already asked them and they're split on opinions, then either pick the most universally flattering one (and I agree with you, #1 looks more flattering) or the most affordable one if there's a big price difference.

emilyinchile

What do your other BMs think?

Before you choose a dress, have everyone try them on. Trust me, it'll look FAR better to have everyone looking pretty and happy in a dress that doesn't match yours quite as much than to have the "perfect" dress if it looks bad on your friends.

akenny

Well I did send the dress out to all the bridesmaid's, and the few responses I've gotten back are "whatever you think, we like both".  As far as price range, they're the same.  Between $150-$200.  

I took MOH #2 to a dress try-on.  She tried on one dress, got annoyed that she didn't fit in the sample, and refused to try on anything else.  So that was that... she won't go back until we're actually ordering the dress.  And she's the one with the biggest opinion against dress #1. 

I don't like the idea of different dresses, just not my thing.  I wanted everyone in the same dress, and then a slight variation of color for the MOH's.  

But I'm going to see if I can get everyone else together to look before ordering. I just wish they showed real people in these dresses online, instead of stick thin models! 

mbcdefg

I agree, definitely get them all to try them both on.

I'd also suggest asking your local board to suggest a salon that carries bigger sample dresses. I remember from bridal gown shopping that it's SO frustrating and sad to not be able to fit in the sample. I asked my local board and they suggested a few places that carry bigger sample gowns, and I was SO much happier when the samples actually fit me.

emilyinchile

You don't have to necessarily get them together to try them on, just ask them to go by X date so that you can see if one of these dresses will work or if you need to look at other options too. Depending on schedules and where you all are, it might be easier for people to go individually rather than trying to coordinate a group trip.

mgietler76

I like the 1st one, but that's probably because my MOH's picked this dress in lapis lol. If your BM's are ok with you just picking one of the dresses than just go with what you like better.

aerinpegadrak

Honestly, I can't really tell the difference between them...  If they've all tried them on and are happy with either, I'd go with the one MOH prefers.

lalap69

I know you said you don't want to do different dresses, but I think you should reconsider it.  These two styles are so similar that when they're in the same colour, it's doubtful you'll even realize they're different dresses unless you look carefully.  It looks to me like they'd flatter different body types though.  I think the most important thing is that on the day of, your girls are comfortable and happy.

(I like the top of dress 1 (bust area only) and the bottom of dress 2.  So...probably not much help.)

gottahavashorti

Ditto PPs that those dresses are similar enough that they could each choose which one they want to wear and it would essentially look the same as identical dresses but with less BMs in dresses that are a poor fit for their bodies- they are more similar than coordinating dresses I've suggested in the past to brides who need to fit a variety of body types but want the feel of identical dresses.

That said, have them vote.  If everyone but MOH #2 loves dress #1, have the maids of honor in dress #2 and the BMs in dress #1.