So my FSIL is a bridesmaid. My sister is my MOH. They had previous problem before FI and I were ever together. Once we got together it seemed like they both squashed it. Well I've been trying to get FSIL to go with us dress shopping for the past few weeks now and she always has an excuse. The 1st time she told me she worked all day but FI and I stopped by after I had gone dress shopping with the other girls and she was sitting at home. Then we went shoe shopping she told me she had to go to work in an hour (the shoe store is right down the road from her house) I went there afterwards to pick up my son cause FI's mom was babysitting him and FSIL was there. Then she told me to plan things on Saturday cause that's her day off. I scheduled something for this Satuday she said she could go then Thursday she said she had a few hair appts (she's a stylist) so I told her we'd schedule around her appts. But then Friday she said she was actually going to the apple orchard. Now I don't want u to get me wrong and think I expect my bridesmaids to be at every single shopping trip or even at any at all. I feel like if they want a say they'll show up and if not they'll have to deal with what the other girls chose. My issue is she keeps lying rather than saying she doesn't want to go. I'd rather her just be honest with me. I thought maybe it was because my sister is always there and FSIL may feel uncomfortable?? I want to make her feel included and comfortable but I don't know if I should say something or just continue to let her know when the trips are and if she doesn't show she doesn't show?? I asked FI and he said he thinks I should say something to her I just don't know what to say or how to say it because I don't want to start drama with his family 7 mons before the wedding. Maybe I'm completely wrong and she just doesn't want to be involved with the wedding stuff which I know is her choice but if it's an issue with my sister I would love to get it resolved. Anyway just let me know what u all think.. talk to her or leave it be??