Needed: Funny "ingredients/ requirements" for a groomsman/bestman??

AnFBlondie

Heyy girls!  I'm making "will you be my groomsman?" gifts and I'm getting each guy a bottle of wine and a made these cute labels for the front of the bottle. Now, as an afterthought, I was thinking of making another label for the back of the bottle that says "Ingredients:..."  I want to add funny ingredients/ requirements of a groomsman. Any ideas of what these should include or does anyone know of a link or website that I could use?  Thanks<3

gottahavashorti

I think individualized lists of inside jokes or things based on their friendship would be better for something like that than a pre-made list - something about a crazy night out, being a fan of their favorite sports team, etc.

AnFBlondie

that would be really sweet, but it would require my fiance to actually participate! hahaha I'll see what I can pull out of him:) thanks!

bablingbrooke

I do like the inside joke idea better--much more personal.  But if your FI doesn't want to participate, could it be because this is a "no-no" in their group?  My DH didn't get his GM anything because he would *never* have lived it down.  Even if it came from me.

stina93446

If he doesn't want to participate, maybe it's his way of saying, "Thanks but no thanks."

AnFBlondie

 He's italian, so he's ok with giving wine, plus he's picking out the bottles lol .. The gift just can't be too girly or corny bc that's not really his style. He really liked the label i made, so I know he wouldnt mind if I added ingredients. haha his groomsmen will clearly know that this was my doing, so I doubt they will give him a hard time:)

bablingbrooke

There are an awful lot of assumptions in what you just wrote.  

MyNameIsNot

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[QUOTE] He's italian, so he's ok with giving wine, plus he's picking out the bottles lol .. <strong>The gift just can't be too girly or corny</strong> bc that's not really his style. He really liked the label i made, so I know he wouldnt mind if I added ingredients. haha his groomsmen will clearly know that this was my doing, so I doubt they will give him a hard time:)
Posted by AnFBlondie[/QUOTE]

Sorry, but this whole thing screams girly and corny. 

Most of the guys I know would be uncomfortable giving or receiving something like this to or from their friends.  All of them would be uncomfortable with their girl getting involved in something like this.

Let your FI ask his GM his own way.  You stick to asking your friends. 

emilykathleen511

I agree that the groom should ask the groomsmen, and the bride should ask the bridesmaids. Seriously. They're his friends, right?

trix1223

I'd say stay out of this altogether.  Your FI is going to look seriously whipped if he gives his buddies a bottle of wine with a cutesy label and even cutsier "ingredients" on it.  That's just sooooo not a guy thing to do.

It's his WP, let him ask them himself.

aerinpegadrak

I have no idea how FI asked his groomsmen.  It was none of my business.

duckie1905

Why not let him figure out how to ask his groomsmen?  DH would've been mortified if I had done something like this because it IS girly and corny.

The honor is in being asked, not how you ask (and in this case, let him ask).

If he wants to give them wine and ask them then great.  But don't assume he wants all the other stuff you are talking about included.  This isn't really your decision to make.

emilyinchile

Agreed. I think that's a super cute idea for you to do with your friends and your inside jokes. But if your FI doesn't want to, then don't do it for him. They're his friends, so whether it's that they'll make fun of his girly labels or just that he's being a guy and doesn't care, then it's his choice to make. Let him be in charge of how he asks his GM.

gottahavashorti

If your FI doesn't want to come up with stuff himself, just skip the ingredients.  I think at that point it switches from being a sweet and funny gesture to kind of lame for a lot of guys.  But that really depends on his friends.

I don't think FI even asked his attendants.  It was always agreed that he and his best friend would be each other's BM when the time came, and FBILs pretty much expected that they'd be in the wedding since that's the norm for our friends and families.

CTGirl30

I have to say the cutesy wine labels with ingredients for a groomsman sound very girly and corny, honestly.

If your FI wants to give his friends bottles of wine, that's awesome, but I'd let him do the asking and just give them the bottle of wine (w/o the label....). I don't know many circles of guys where this would go over without some level of teasing / the guys giving him crap for it.

He didn't get involved with how you asked your girlfriends to be bridesmaids, right? So let him deal with this guy friends.

There will plenty of opportunities to design cutesy, girly things for your wedding down the line...I'd stay out of the guys' stuff.

Dashofpurple

I think your idea is cute because I am a girl.  However, I am not too sure how the guys will react.  Yeah, they will think it is cute because you gave it to them but will probably "tease" (for a lack of a better word) your FI afterwards.  You should def let your FI pick his Best Man/GM.  Sorry to burst your bubble.

AnFBlondie

Wow this post got way out of hand! haha all i wanted was ideas on where to find some funny groomsman jokes!  Thanks for everyone's input, but you really missed my question! Anyways, he really liked the idea & he picked out the wine himself! I just got the labels and he loved them! haha I've been dating the guy for 5 years, i think I know a little about his likes & dislikes;) I'll def post pics after I have the finished product!!

bablingbrooke

"Lalalalalalala I am not listening!"

gottahavashorti

[QUOTE]Wow this post got way out of hand! haha all i wanted was ideas on where to find some funny groomsman jokes!  Thanks for everyone's input, but you really missed my question! Anyways, he really liked the idea & he picked out the wine himself! I just got the labels and he loved them! haha I've been dating the guy for 5 years, i think I know a little about his likes & dislikes;) I'll def post pics after I have the finished product!!
Posted by AnFBlondie[/QUOTE]
His GMs' likes and dislikes are more of the issue here.  See if you can at least get him to brainstorm some inside jokes or fun tidbits about each GM for the ingredients.

Ldelaney12

Sounds to me like this bride and her groom have already decided that this is what they wanted to do. So to offer a suggestion and maybe take into consideration what some of the other posts said about it being to girly, make the ingredients funny things like:

Show up to the ceremony on time and sober... or at least somewhat sober.

Make sure the groom arrives to the wedding.

I think it's a cute idea and if it's what you want to do then by all means do it! The most important thing is that your wedding and all of the events surrounding it are Your style.

MyNameIsNot

:headdesk: 

It's not about not knowing your FI.  It's about running his relationships. 

This post most certainly did not get out of hand.  You got a ton of great advice.  You'd be wise to take it. 

bablingbrooke

This has nothing to do with the wedding.  This is about OP taking it upon her self to ask her FI's GM for him.  In the cutesy way that she feels is best.  Without regard for how they will react to it.  Or for the fact that they are his friends, his GM, and therefore it is his responsibility and privilege to ask them the way he wants to.

How would you feel if your FI decided he was asking your BM for you and was going to do it his way?

AnFBlondie

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[QUOTE]OP, please locate the other forms of punctuation on your keyboard. The period would be a great start. You cannot possibly be as excited about our feedback as all of your !!!!s would lead us to believe. We didn't misunderstand, we just disagree with you.
Posted by emilyinchile[/QUOTE]

Ooh we have a comedian here... pretty sure i used a variety of punctuation.

Anyways, excuse me for being excited about being engaged & I do appreciate feedback, whether I choose to use it or not. What I don't appreciate is rude people and rude comments. Being new on here, I didn't realize that this was what 'the knot' was all about.

MyNameIsNot

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Needed: Funny "ingredients/ requirements" for a groomsman/bestman?? : Ooh we have a comedian here... pretty sure i used a variety of punctuation. Anyways, excuse me for being excited about being engaged & I do appreciate feedback, whether I choose to use it or not. What I don't appreciate is rude people and rude comments. Being new on here, I didn't realize that this was what 'the knot' was all about.
Posted by AnFBlondie[/QUOTE]

No one was rude to you.  Stick around.  You'll see that the knot is full of people giving honest advice and feedback.  They won't hesitate to tell you when you have a bad idea, just as was the case here. 

If you refuse to accept that it is a bad idea, that's your business.  But you can't blame us when this embarrasses your FI.