I am having trouble figuring out what to do about my mother. She and my father split well over a year ago and it was over for them more than a year before that. He has moved on finally, it was rough for him, he adored my mom. He is getting married next year and having a baby and helping raise her little boy, I am so proud of him and happy for him.
My mom kind of went crazy, cheated on him, with his proclaimed "brother" and some other people and told everyone we knew that he abused her and she was afraid to go to sleep. My dad is a socal worker and is the nicest person, he never even allowed us to kill bugs in the house, had killed one fish in his life and couldn't be home when my neighbor came over to help me butcher my chickens.
She even had my sisters convinced that he was evil.
I wasn't her favorite person by that time, I had started dating FH and had refused a guy she liked more. She had started tearing down my FH and saying horrid things about him and I wasn't buying what she said abut my dad either. And then she said something i could prove wasn't true to my sister and I, which she should not have been sharing with her kids in the first place and I called her on it. She wasn't happy about that lol. But later I told my sisters and told them a few other things I had found out. ( I like to know things so had been prying) And they eventualy started questioning a few things she had told them that didn't add up.
About a week before she finally left we were celebrating a Bday and stoped at a bar to play some pool. My mom started hitting on these 'rig pigs' and brought them over to our table, I wasn't impressed, we were there with my dad and a sister and her man and some others and she was being rather obvious about her interset in this one guy and he was bein disrespectful to her and my dad. I had to convince my dad not to get into a fight, it was aweful, and my mom just kept at it, i asked her to stop or leave and she refused, and from then on started calling me , loudly, a horrible daughter, I had to eventually drag her and my dad out to the car, I threatened to call the cops on all of them.
And she told people in town that i was a horrible daughter, I actually have been yelled at by one of her friends, in person and on the phone about how bad a daughter I am.
I have spoken to her once since she left. My dad and sisters talk to her.
My question is should I invite her to my wedding? I am going to invite her mother, my granny, who she is still living with. But I don't know if I can stand seeing her, I will have to in a couple of months for my sisters wedding and I am freaking about that already and I am afraid of her being mean to my dads new woman and also what it might do to my dad, and me. And if I invite her will she think that I have forgiven her?
I am sorry this is so personal and depressing and long but noone will give me a opinion, just 'what ever i want'.