How to incorporate an 8 year old boy into the wedding.

ribi3d

My fiance and I are planning our wedding for next September. My daughters will be 3 and 4 and will both be flower girls. My fiance's son will be 8 and for some reason both of us feel that may be a bit old to be a ring bearer and definitely too young for a groomsman. Does anyone have any advice on how we can incorporate our son into our wedding? We want our children to play important parts in the wedding because in fact it is not just his and my wedding, it's the marriage of our family. Is 8 too old for a ring bearer or are we being silly? Would there be a more appropriate role for our boy? Any advice would be helpful.

mbcdefg

Ask HIM if he thinks he's too old to be a ring bearer. Maybe he wants to do it.

To be a groomsman, he just needs to walk up and down the aisle, and stand/sit quietly for the ceremony. And pose for the formal photos. Nothing more.

bablingbrooke

Our RBs were 11.  I don't think 8 is too old at all.

trix1223

I don't think that 8 is either too old to be the RB or too young to be a GM or even Best Man.

bdulli13

I think 8 is perfect, if he wants to do it. You can pretty much count on him making it down the aisle without a crying fit or any prompting. But ditto PP's, and make sure you ask if he would like to

saisongbird

Perfect age for a ringbearer, if he wants to do it.

aerinpegadrak

I've seen adult ring bearers.  He's only too old when he tells you, "That's a baby job, I don't want to do it."

Just ask him what role he'd like to have.  Since he's of the age where weddings are icky girly stuff, it's entirely possible that he doesn't want to do anything.

TaraRobin

My fiance's son will be 8, but he is DYING to be the ring bearer, cuz he played the same role in his mother's wedding.

Definitely too young to be a groomsman, but you could always just have him be an escort and walk the flower girls down the aisle

TaraRobin

Also, remember that an 8-year-old is a lot less likely to lose the rings, so you don't have to give him fakes. And he'll ba old enough to focus during the rehearsal.

ribi3d

Thank you all for the advice!