I am an only child, but grew up very close to one of my cousins, that I really wanted to be part of the wedding. So I asked my fiancé if he would mind having my cousin as a GM, despite the fact that they do not know each other very well, and in exchange, I would ask his sister to be a BM (whom I didn’t want as a BM to begin with).
Now, we are less than 4 months away from the wedding. My cousin has shown no interest in the wedding. When my fiancé asked him to be a GM, my cousin secretly told me that he had only accepted for me. He lives 2 hours away, and used that as an excuse not to come to the engagement party, and might be missing out on the bachelor party as well. He says he will be here for the wedding, despite having missed out on everything else, but has gone as far as to saying that for him to be here for the rehearsal, the wedding, and the brunch, that this will cost him 3 days of salary + all the added expenses.
I am completely hurt that he has shown no interest in the wedding, and has actually had the audacity to tell me how much money he will loose from the time off he will be taking to come down for the wedding (NB: we have attendants coming from out of province and Europe to be in our wedding party and have not complained once!). We are reconsidering having him as a GM all together. Am I overreacting and how should I be addressing this situation ?!