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Bridesmaid VENT!

Hi Ladies!

Hopefully you guys can help me out with this one! I have a friend who I've known since i was pretty much born. Both of our parents are very good friends and they see each other often. As we got older we became distant and she became weird. She was always a little off but it never bothered me until recently when it started to become out of control!

Pretty much, if you don't call her she won't call you. I'm always finding myself calling her and asking her to hang out meanwhile she has friends from college that she has no problem calling and hanging out with. She also acts like she is better than everyone else and I can't stand that! So anyway the icing on the cake was that she deleted me and our mutual friends off of facebook and has another account with all these men including my ex boyfriend!! When I found her she had a half naked picture of herself as her picture! I confronted her about this asking her why she did what she did and she said she never goes on it and that she blocked everyone. Well anyway I caught her in many lies and before all of this i had asked her to be in the bridal party because I felt it was the right thing to do and i had some hope that things would get better.

I honestly feel that she's living a double life and doesn't want anyone knowing about it.  I am confused and don't even know what to do. Do i confront her again and explain how I feel? I've been considering this but I know I'm just going to get lies from her. I'm  at the point where i want no part of her and I don't even want her in my bridal party.

What do you think I should do?

Re: Bridesmaid VENT!

  • This isn't a wedding issue at all, it's a friend issue.  Decide if you want to confront her, try to get to the bottom of the issues, or just end the friendship, and then do so. 



  • I agree this isn't a wedding issue. Have you read ANY of the million posts on here all titled, "bridesmaid drama/vent/help" as much as you think your situation is different, it's not. IT IS NEVER OKAY TO KICK SOMEONE OUT OF YOUR WEDDING. For whatever reason. You chose this person and for better or worse, your stuck with her. Your question is what should you do, and here is my answer: have your other bridesmaids keep her in check so she doesn't drive you crazy. As far as your relationship with her goes, try to fix it or move on.
  • As long as her double life allows her to get a dress and is available on the wedding date I don't see the BM problem.

    That being said this would concern me as a friend and I would take time out to talk with her.

    Take some time out and hang out with her, be her friend...this might be the most useful thing you can do.
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  • Thanks ladies! I'll def. take the advice. Sometimes it's good to get an opinion from an outside person. I wouldn't want to kick her out bc it is rude and I would be heartbroken if someone did that to me. Just frustrated as a friend.
  • I agree with the other girls that it's not a wedding issue but I kinda think you should talk to her about it.  I noticed your wedding is a year and a half away though.  Maybe you should hold off on the whole wanting her out of the wedding party thing for a little bit.  You have plenty of time to change your mind about her.

    I do think if you want her out of the wedding you would need to talk to her about it.  The girl above who said you're stuck with your bridal party (I think) is wrong.  You should have people who support you and respect your relationship.  If she's not doing either of those then it's absolutely okay to tell her you don't want her to be a part of your day.  You wouldn't stick with the groom if you're having reservations right?  Just remember something like that is permanent and you may lose a life long friend....
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