One of my bridesmaids, who I have known for several years, has turned into someone I don't know over the past month or so. She called me last night and said she didn't want to be involved with the bachelorette party or bridal shower. She doesn't want to get ready with the rest of the party the morning of, she would just meet me and my two other bridesmaids at the ceremony location. She stated, "I want to show my support for you and Jake by just being part of the ceremony but nothing else." She wanted no part in any of the planning of events, which made my other bridesmaid VERY frustrated. I spoke with her a couple weeks ago and said that if she didn't want to be a part of the wedding party, then to let me know. She said that she did want to, however after giving it some thought, she told me she was opting out of the pre-wedding celebrations. I know that she sometimes struggles with people she doesn't know, but this seems silly. After mulling over our conversation last night, I realized she didn't take any responsibility for her actions, she made extremely rude comments about my other bridesmaid and did not tell the truth about some situations. I want to call her back and tell her that I don't want her to be in the wedding at all (she did give that as an option last night, but I didn't take her up on it at the time). I understand this will alter our friendship but I am OK with that because I don't want her as a friend anymore. HELP!