Bridesmaid Gifts

bballgirl8789

Hey All,

I am looking for freshwater pearl sets for my girls as thier gift.  I found the sets for my maid of honor, three bridesmaids and jr. bridesmaid, but I am looking for a pearl set for my flower girl.  She is about 8 years old, I want to get her a set, but not the same size as the other girls.  I am looking for a 4 mm freshwater pearl set (must have bracelet and earrings).  If it has a necklace that is fine, but I am asking the girls to not wear the necklace, because it won't look right with the style of the dress.  Do you know of anywhere that I can find an inexpensive 4 mm freshwater pearl set?  I am looking to spend under $25 hopefully.  Thanks!

banana468

Have you tried etsy?

Just an FYI - telling them what to do with their gift makes it not a gift.  Make sure what you give carries no strings - including requiring it for wedding day wear.

bablingbrooke

Dictating what jewelry they can and can't wear at the wedding is inappropriate.  No one likes a micromanager.  You won't notice their jewelry anyway--even in the photos you won't be able to tell.

gottahavashorti

If it's not their style and it has to be worn for a wedding, you need to think of new BM gifts.  They don't all have to be the same.

bballgirl8789

Thanks for the suggestions.  Is there a way I can ask them to wear it for the wedding day?  The girls are picking their own hairstyles and shoes.  I just want their dress and jewelry to match is all.

aerinpegadrak

You can still give it to them to wear at the wedding, but in that case, it doesn't count as a gift, just part of the uniform.  But for the record, no one is going to notice their jewelry, so I think that matching stuff is overkill.

bablingbrooke

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaid-gifts-18?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:e371d68a-7cb4-41fa-abca-4be55d63b6fePost:10842827-3914-49b6-93ce-5066c9e97520">Re: Bridesmaid Gifts</a>:
[QUOTE]Thanks for the suggestions.  Is there a way I can ask them to wear it for the wedding day?  The girls are picking their own hairstyles and shoes.  I just want their dress and jewelry to match is all.
Posted by bballgirl8789[/QUOTE]
Why?  Why do you care about such a small detail?

bballgirl8789

My MOH and I discussed it a while ago.  She thought it would be nice if everyone had matching jewelry as well.  She's my best friend, she isn't shy, if she thought it was stupid, she would've told me.  I care about the small detail, because I think it looks nice when the jewelry matches.  I have noticed it at other weddings when they do and do not match.  It looks nicer when the dresses and jewelry matches, in my personal opinion.  They are picking their own hair and shoes.  I just want their dress and jewelry to match.  It's a small detail that matters to me.  Other than the dress and jewelry matching, I don't care.   

Viczaesar

Then in my opinion you need something else as a present.  A gift that is intended for the wedding to complete your vision of the day is part of a uniform, it's not an actual gift.  It doesn't have to be big or expensive, but it does have to be personal.

bablingbrooke

Well, no, not everyone will tell you that your wedding ideas are stupid.  In fact, most people will not tell a bride her idea is bad, even if it objectively is.  Just bear that in mind.  

Like pps said, it's really not their gift so if you want to dictate the jewelry it should be 1) bought for them and 2) buy something personal for their gift.  Anything to do with the wedding is a gift to YOU, not them.

Please do reconsider the "little things" that are so important to you.  Don't lose sight of what the day is about--marrying your FI with your best friends standing beside you.  Things like jewelry aren't worth your time to think about, and while friends will grin and bear it, why put them in that position in the first place?  

banana468

It's fine if you want them to match.  The thing is, you can't tell them what to wear and call it a gift.  It's fine to say, "I'm contributing to your jewelry costs," but if you require anything, it's not a gift for them.