Two members of our wedding party have been in a relationship even longer than my fiance and I. Even though, in the past six years, they have taken "breaks" they had been going strong for quite a while so I wasn't worried when we asked them both to be in our wedding party.
Unfortunately, they had a very nasty break up around two months ago.I have been friends with her for over five years and have been friends with our groomsman since elementary school. I want them both in our wedding because they are both so special to my fiance and I and have had a a big impact in our relationship, but I really don't know what to do, especially since my bridesmaid has been hard to work with lately.
I asked all of my bridesmaid dresses to get their deposits and dress sizes in my February 15 (when the dress lady told me they needed to be in) and she did not do so. Which I rolled with and just reminded her...a few times. She had been having some money issues and I wanted to make sure she wanted to know that she wasn't obligated to be in the wedding and I understood that it was expensive.
To say that she said, 'money isn't a problem anymore, I'll take care of it tomorrow' would be a very wistful dream. She kind of freaked out and said that I was just using money as an excuse to kick her out of the wedding, which was not my intention. I ignored her texts, I just figured silence was probably the best route to go and the next day she called to say that she put a deposit down and got measured and she wanted to go to lunch to talk about things.
I honestly don't know what to do. I'd by lying if I said I wasn't worried about her and our groomsman making a scene at the wedding (anyone who saw the disaster they made out of my birthday party would agree) but I want her part of our day. On top of everything, one of our mutual friends, also in the wedding, called me and said that my bridesmaid called her that night and said some very nasty things about my fiance and I and at one point said that she didn't even want to be in the wedding anymore.
I honestly don't know what to do. She put the deposit on the dress but I do not want drama on my fiance and my wedding day. Any advice?