My FI and I went to Vegas a few days ago to celebrate our b-days He turned 30 while we were there. He had a few friends drive up from AZ that he hasn't seen since high school (we live in WI) which was super cool. One of the guys (K) he's good friends with still, the kind of friend despite not seeing each other for 10 years that pick up where they left off. And he mentioned to me at some drunk point of the celebration that he kind of asked him to stand up in his wedding.
I know it's okay to have uneven sides, i'm not too much of a fan of that idea as I like the idea of the wedding party dances and the symmetry of everything.
K is graduating next month on a weekend that we've already planned a BBQ at our home with about 20 couples and their kids, trying to get all of our friends that don't know each other in one place so they don't go to our wedding and know only us. and K keeps calling FI to come out to AZ, which we don't have the money for, PLUS i'd be kind of upset if he missed our BBQ especially since it's doubling as a belated 30th with some of the people who couldn't make it.
Background on the BP picking I always knew that my BP would be my two best girlfriends (asked super early and I don't care when we saw them on the night of our engagement) and my brothers FI. I was teetering with another friend (who i always thought would be a MOH and i'd have 2) who was a best friend at the time, but didn't ask as we were drifting apart. In fact the first time she saw me after I got engaged, she didn't even say congrats, ask to see the ring or acknowledge the fact that I was now engaged.
So after all that (sorry) I don't know who to pick to fill in! I have a cousin I was close to growing up but since has changed some ways (no longer drinks, has a new baby, and a bit of a bible thumper these days. No issues I love her and I know it's her decision but I want everyone to mesh.
I have 2 girlfriends from college that are the type of friends that I never seem to skip a beat with, but they live far away as well. One I can never seem to get a hold of, but I was invited to her wedding and her home a few times and has come down to see me a few times too. And another girl who I think would get along with this K, but has told me sooo many stories about how she was asked to stand up in another person from college's wedding and had a hard time making it to things (bachelorette party, shower etc) and ultimately felt bad and annoyed about being asked in a wedding that she rarely sees the person. And I wouldn't want to make the other girl feel poorly either even though I was not in her WP.
But I really don't have many girlfreinds other than the one's already asked left, at least none that I am close to OR deem reliable. Plus our dresses are kind of expensive (around upper 100-200) so to potentially have them travel + the cost of dresses PLUS they all already know we were having a 3 person per side WP. Our Ushers are our Godfathers.
I guess, any ideas? Advice? My BM dresses I was told should be selected and ordered before October, and we're almsot done with JULY!