Advice: other name for BP members?

lilmizdncnqueen

My twin sister is my Maid of Honor - & I have a friend that's a Bridesmaid. However, my best friend is in the wedding too & I'd like her to have a more distinct title than "Bridesmaid" & I don't want 2 Maids of Honor (that's a special place for my sister). SO - as of now I have her as "First Bridesmaid". Does that sound ok or does anyone have any ideas that sound better?

bablingbrooke

I personally think making up titles is a bit asinine.  Not only will it just look weird, it creates a hierarchy among all your BMs that looks an awful lot like a friendship ranking system, and that rarely ends well.

Either make her a co-MOH or keep her as BM.  If you want to thank her/honor her, take her out to dinner and tell her how much she means to you.

Licia&Wayne

I'll second the ditto on what Brooke said.

It isn't band. You don't need first, second and third chairs.

suz62984

Listen to Brooke!!!! Don't "rate" your friends.

mbcdefg

"First Bridesmaid" sounds really dumb, and that's sure to make the other bridesmaid feel like shiit. Please don't do that.

Ditto PPs, do something nice for her in private if you feel that she's been especially great ... take her to dinner, write her a nice note, give her a special gift. That will mean a lot more to her than a meaningless made-up title for a one-day event.

frogurt814

lol, Licia.  "It isn't band."  That made me laugh.

aerinpegadrak

Our groomswoman was super helpful throughout planning, so she was listed as an attendant in the program, and again under the "special thanks" section.  That was about it.  I think making up titles is just unnecessarily complicating things.  (Though I will admit to referring to my attendants as "henchmen" throughout planning.)

acluster

If she's married you can always go with the traditional "Matron of Honor," though it does sound rather well...matronly...If not and you really want her to have a place separate from other bridesmaids, I don't think "First Maid" sounds particularly terrible, though it would be more traditional to have "co-maids" of honor. In the end it's your day, and the girs you choose should feel special no matter what

bablingbrooke

Says the girl who wants to boot a GM because he set his wedding date before hers...

frogurt814

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[QUOTE]If she's married you can always go with the traditional "Matron of Honor," though it does sound rather well...matronly...If not and you really want her to have a place separate from other bridesmaids, I don't think "First Maid" sounds particularly terrible, though it would be more traditional to have "co-maids" of honor. In the end it's your day, and the girs you choose should feel special no matter what
Posted by acluster[/QUOTE]
Oh geesh.

It's "your day" so that means you don't have to take into consideration anyone else's feelings. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" />

trix1223

I think it's goofy sounding.  To be honest, I think anyone over the age of 8 will understand that two people can have the same title without their feelings getting hurt.