nephew in wedding

EKA0928

I want my nephew to be the ring bearer in my wedding along with my fiance's cousin.  My fiance was fine with this until my sister made him angry.  Now he is saying that I need to call my sister and tell her that my nephew can't be in the wedding because we only need one ring bearer.  He says that if I don't call her and "confront" her, then I am "too scared to stand up to her," even though it was my idea all along to have her son in my wedding.  I absolutely refuse to give in to my fiance because I really want my nephew in the wedding party.  I feel like I can't talk to my mom about this because I really don't want her getting mad at my fiance.

trix1223

Why can't you have two RB's.  Actually I know the answer.  Because your FSIL is afraid that your nephew will steal her little Dudley's thunder.

You know what?  Her son will become your nephew when you're married.  Your nephew will become your FI's nephew when you're married.  It's a tie.  Have both little boys.

mbcdefg

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_nephew-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:e9d75414-5812-47a1-9856-c58168e878fcPost:51cf3214-2946-46ae-be7b-a6098c6207df">Re: nephew in wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]Why can't you have two RB's.  Actually I know the answer.  Because your FSIL is afraid that your nephew will steal her little Dudley's thunder. You know what?  Her son will become your nephew when you're married.  Your nephew will become your FI's nephew when you're married.  It's a tie.  Have both little boys.
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Did the story change since you replied, Trix? The story I'm seeing says that the bride's sister got into an argument with the FI, and now the FI is demanding that the nephew be cut as ring bearer to punish the sister.

mysticl

You have bigger issues than that who is the RB in your wedding if you FI is demanding that you basically pick a fight with your sister because he is mad at her.  You obviously don't feel she did anything to cause you to punish her and her son.  You and FI need to talk. 

quotequeen

Why is your FI mad at your sister?

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In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_nephew-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:e9d75414-5812-47a1-9856-c58168e878fcPost:fb91cd35-87a9-42f2-b51a-10b5ffd214ae">Re: nephew in wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]You have bigger issues than that who is the RB in your wedding if you FI is demanding that you basically pick a fight with your sister because he is mad at her.  You obviously don't feel she did anything to cause you to punish her and her son.  You and FI need to talk. 
Posted by mysticl[/QUOTE]

Ditto this. This is something that you 2 need to work out. Hopefully he will understand that you really want your nephew to be part of the wedding.

And yes, it is fine to have 2 RB's. A lot of people have 2 RB's or FG's. We had 2 FG"s. A lot of times they don't carry the actual rings anyway. Ours did, though.

trix1223

Yeah, malphabet.  That was a reading fail on my part.  Now that I have (I think) an understanding of the situation:

OP:  You have bigger problems than the RB in your wedding.  I think there's a problem with the groom in this wedding.  A guy that would try to bully you into a fight with your own sister, AND use your nephew as a pawn in his little game is not someone I'd care to be spending the rest of my life with.  Sorry.