Ok, so a friend of mine asked me to be her MOH, and I of course said that I would love to, but I have concerns about the cost of things. She said not to worry because she picked out dresses from David's Bridal that were $79.00 and she was going to gift shoes, and Jewelry, and if I needed it she would help me out. I told her as long as that was the case I could pull it off no problem because her parties (shower, bachelorette) were going to cost money too. She agreed. She told us to hold off on buying our dresses even though she knew what she wanted. Now last minute, she has changed her mind and wants the dresses hand made and they are going to cost $200.00 now. I was stunned when she told me this and I told her I'm sorry, a year ago when we discussed this, it was only going to be 79.00, I can't pull off a 200.00 dollar dress, I didn't budget for it being that high. She said no worries, she would help me with the dress, reluctantly I agreed and told her I would still be in her wedding as long as she was seriously going to help pay. But, when it came time to pay for the thing (they wanted it in full) she said she would not be helping me and I had to come up with the money myself. I did some digging and found out a way to pull off the $200.00 dress and informed the bride. (I am getting married too, and she is always saying "when you get to this point you will understand how I feel" Though I have never felt her stress level).
She then told me she wanted the dress to be cut exactly to fit my body, so that I could wear it again and I told her that I was uncomfortable with the idea because I don't wear dresses very often and I would prefer it to be cut true to size. After she was on my case about having it cut to fit my body, I caved and told her the reason behind it was because I wanted to sell the dress afterwards so I could get some of the $200.00 back. She immediately took that as I hate the dress. I tried to explain to her that the reasoning was because of how expensive the dress was and as with other Bridesmaid dresses I have they just sit in my closet. She WAS suppose to be a BM in my wedding and I told her and the other girls (before this all happened) that IF they wanted to sell the dresses they should do it together to get a better chance of selling them, and she thought that was a good idea. I spoke to some of the other bridesmaids and they said they were going to sell their dress as well. I'm not hurt by this, I understand you getting a dress for someone else's wedding and wearing most likely once. The other girls from her wedding WERE planning on doing the same thing until now...
OK, so here is the thing, this girl kicked me out of her wedding...which fine, I can understand, and she took herself out of mine, again I can understand, but seriously, she hates me now and I made her day horrible, and she won't even talk to me. I tried to tell her once that I didn't want a dress to ruin our friendship and she goes "you should have thought about that before you told me you were going to sell your dress" What should I do?! I'm so confused, honestly did I do something wrong? I never told her the dresses were ugly, I just said that I need to recoup some of the expense that I wasn't expecting and I don't wear dresses often, which she should know because she has only seen me in a dress once, at PROM...and we have been friends for over 10 years...I don't know what to do, the only dress in my closet right now is my wedding dress...What should I say to her if anything?
