girl groomsman

McKnightLuck0611

I am hoping to connect with a bride who has or is having a girl stand up as a "groomsman" not a bridesmaid. 

Trying to sort out what I should have her wear, how to go about a flower choice for her and other special requirements that would go along with this breaking of tradition. 

Hopefully I am not alone......

Beachy730

We did not have any groomswomen, but if we did I would have probably put her in the same dress as my BMs.  Or at least the same color.  And I would get her a bouquet like the BMs.

You are definitely not alone.  There are many couples who have mixed gender WPs.  Many of the ladies here have done them. 

bablingbrooke

Is your poll for real?

Beachy730

Your poll makes it sound like you are jealous that your FI wants this girl standing next to him, and that you real question is here is if that is justified, not what she should be wearing. 

AutumnFair

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[QUOTE]Your poll makes it sound like you are jealous that your FI wants this girl standing next to him, and that you real question is here is if that is justified, not what she should be wearing. 
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

<div>Ditto, I read her post first which seemed OK then the poll sounds terribly childish. Seriously OP, NOT your call, if your FI wants a girl on his side that is HIS choice. You need to respect it (just like if you wanted a guy on your side he should respect your choice).</div><div>
</div><div>As for what she can wear, she can either do a black dress in the same style as a BMs (or just a nice formal black dress), or the BM style dress in the color of the ties/vest the GM are wearing. She can either have a bouquet or just have a her wear a corsage similar to the GM. Definitely not the end of the world with mix gender, its becoming more and more common.</div><div><font face="Arial" size="3" class="Apple-style-span" color="#666666"><span style="font-size:12px;line-height:14px;" class="Apple-style-span">
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aerinpegadrak

DH had one of his close female friends on his side.  You can see pictures in my bio of how it turned out; basically since the guys were in white tuxes and neither her or I were thrilled about the idea of her wearing a white dress, the plan was for her to wear silver with a white wrap.  The dress she chose ended up being more black than silver, but whatever.  I figured she'd want a pin-on corsage or a bouquet, but when I showed her the wrist corsage I was working on for the moms, she got really excited and wanted to do that instead.  My brother stood on my side, so working out walking order wasn't really complicated because they just came in together.

I think your poll choices are a little petty.  Clearly you have a problem with this friendship, and that's something you should definitely work out before it causes problems in your marriage.  DH has several female friends, and I have my share of male friendships; we trust each other entirely, so it's never been an issue. 

tldh

Here's an idea.  Scroll down towards the bottom of page 1 of the WP page and read the answers to "Female Grooms Woman What Does She Wear."

karmellah

i was a bestwoman at one. i dont see anything wrong with it. I would have Bridesmen if i was one of those girls who were only friends with guys.

marinabreeze

So what's the issue?  I'm with PPs...your post says one thing, but your poll says something else.  My FI has quite a few female friends (as well as male friends) I have a few male friends.  I'm not close enough to my male friends to have them stand up for me, but one of my FI's closest friends is female.  When he was trying to decide on his side of the WP, I let him know that mixed-gender WPs are okay, so he chose his closest female friend as a groomswoman.  So I don't see what the problem is, unless you're leaving out information.

About the logistical aspects of it, you FI can decide on her attire along with the groomswoman's input - his side, his call.  But if they want your input on what she should wear, maybe a black dress/pantsuit or one that matches the groomsmen, or a dress similar to the bridesmaids.  She could wear a corsage that matches the boutonnieres the groomsmen wear.   Beyond that I can't think of anything else that would need modification.

trix1223

I was going to give you a helpful answer.  Then I read your poll.  Now I just think answering would be a waste of time.

banana468

I can't answer your poll.  DH and I both have male and female friends.  If he wanted a girl to be on his side that would have been fine.

IMO, the female attendant can wear either what the BMs wear,  a black dress like the BMs, a black dress of her own that is of similar length as the BMs or a pant suit.  Of course, this is about making the attendant comfortable too.

soontobesanor

My FI is having a groomslady (?) as well, and the most confusing part of it for me is just trying to draw the line at the fact that she's not technically a bride's maid. I'm not picky about if she wears a BM dress (which are going to be black) or if she wants to coordinate with the GM. I think I'll leave that up her and the FI. I do however, want to pay for a portion if not all of the BM's dresses. Is it rude to not provide the same offer to her, or is that more of FI responsibility/decision?