Hello,
I'm recently engaged and trying to figure out who will be in my bridal party. I'm already set on three of them, but I'm having an internal conflict about the 4th. I want to ask the first person I met in law school. She and I happened to really click and she's been my closest school friend for the past year. She's been really supportive of me so far and even sent a wedding planning book to me two days after we were engaged.
Tha problem is that I have another really good friend from law school who I do not want in the wedding party and I think she'll be really hurt if I choose my other friend but not her. She has already started talking about going dress shopping with me. The reason I wouldn't choose her is that she always has personal drama and she complains about everything. I like her as a friend I just don't think I could handle her complaining and drama in my wedding.
Even if the friend I want to choose said no I would just have 3 BMs instead of 4. It's not about choosing one or the other. I'm so concerned about upseting the other friend that I've thought about not asking the friend I want to ask just to avoid the drama.
Is this ridiculous? How do I handle this?