Matron of Honor (sorta long)

mgietler76

I'm a newbie with my first post! Here's a question you may not have heard. I decided to let my BM's choose whatever dress they want from David's as long as it was long and purple, the kicker? My Matron of honor doesn't want to, she wants me to just tell her what to wear! (she's of the bridezilla pack where its whatever the bride says goes and super "traditional" where as I'm not) I'm a little concerned because she is pregnant right now and with her due date just weeks before the wedding I want her to be as comfortable as possible. I suggested we go together and decide on a dress we both like and she just wants me to pick something! I guess I'm worried she won't be comfortable, how do I convince her to choose whatever she likes?

stina93446

You're in a very good position. I did the same thing (minus the pregnant bridesmaid) of letting them pick out their own dresses. My advice to you is to go to the store (you can go with her or she can go solo) and let the associates know that she's going to be pretty 'bumped' up by the wedding date. Bridal consultants work with MANY pregnant ladies. It's not even out of the ordinary. Many companies have maternity dresses for bridesmaids, so maybe Davids has some.

The consultant should be good with handling your pregnant friend. And to smooth the process, maybe YOU should check out some of the styles online (also suggest this to her or at least find out what she has in her closet that she likes) and that way when you get to the store, you can expedite the process by already knowing the styles to try on.

quotequeen

So she isn't willing to go to the store at all?  Maybe if you tell her you can't know what you'll like without seeing it on her, she'll agree to go, as long as you're still picking?  Really, if she's insistent you pick something, you should just do it.

gottahavashorti

Ask her if there is anything she loves or hates in a dress - straps vs. strapless, empire/natural/dropped waist, embellishment. 

Find a few dresses, narrow it down further by talking to a consultant at David's about whether any of those dresses will work for someone who has just had a baby in terms of leeway in size, since she might not know her exact size.

Give her 1-3 options and ask her to choose.  If she still doesn't want to choose, ask her to eliminate any she dislikes and flip a coin.

mgietler76

Thanks for the opinions, I think I will just try to get her to the store and judge by her facial expressions which one she's more comfortable with (one of the benefits of being friends for 16yrs). The problem is when I mentioned maternity dresses she seemed offended because she won't be pregnant anymore! Oh well if all else fails maybe I will just flip a coin like you said.

mrscarter052011

Maybe instead of actual "maternity" dresses you can just look at dresses that maybe have a higher waist, more flowy skirt so that she'll feel comfortable?   I was pg when we picked dresses my BF's wedding so it's tough because I didn't want a maternity dress but we were worried about fast I would lose the weight etc so we went with a bigger size in a dress that would be flattering and then I had the necessary alterations.

BTW-THANK YOU for not coming on here and saying "OMG, my MOH is pg and trying to steal my thunder". 

Jookie77

I did the same thing-- picked a color and length and let my girls choose their dress. My MOH wants to be pregnant before my wedding and these are the dresses from Davids Bridal she likes if she is in fact pregnant for my wedding:

http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Satin-Strapless-Ballgown-with-Sweetheart-Neckline-84066_Bridal-Party-Bridesmaids-Shop-By-Length-Long-Bridesmaid-Dresses

http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Strapless-Jersey-A-line-with-Ruched-Charmeuse-Bust-F13291_Bridal-Party-Bridesmaids-All-Bridesmaid-Dresses

My MOH and I both think either of these dresses would be beautiful on any stage of pregnancy (or no pregnancy!).

Good luck!

PeonyPrincesskdd

pick something for her then.  Easy as that.  She is pregnant and full of hormones and probably can't come to a decision on her own.  Help her out in her time of crisis.  Maybe she dreads dress shopping in general and it's 10 times harder when your pregnant