BM Wars...

HKD817

Hey girls....Does anyone else have BM's that argue about stupid crapola!!?? I have one of my BM's that is arguing with my MOH. She is being a total you know what to her and I just dont know why. My FI told me about because my MOH is his sister. I love her, she is the best. I want to defend her but I dont want to further piss off the BM she is arguing with. Why do girls have to be like this. it is so annoying

twilight.rose

I would ignore it and let them work out their own issues. Neither one of them has brought it to your attention, so there's no need for you to place yourself in the middle of their problems.

CTGirl30

No, my girls all got along fine. And if there were any arguments or issues they certainly didn't bring it to me.

I suggest you stay out of this one since they didn't bring it to you, either. Your FI did, but it's really not your place to get in the middle of their tiffs. They're big girls - they'll find a way to work it out amongts themselves (or not). But it's not really for you to concern yourself with, thankfully.

saxy414

I'm pretty sure my girls will be ok, and even if not, they're big kids and I trust that they'll either work it out, or behave like adults when they need to. 

It sucks, but that's what you should do--trust that they'll act like the adults they hopefully are, and stay out of it. 

Edit--maybe you could try to keep them apart if possible.  For example, not sit them next to each other at dinner or something. 

SSaltzman87

Sorry your BMs are acting like immature kids, hopefully they can work it out amongst themselves. Like PPs have said, if they didn't bring it to your attention- stay out of it.

I'm so glad that my BMs are all good friends with each other in the first place so there really isn't any drama :-)

aerinpegadrak

My girls didn't really have much interaction before the wedding.  There was no shower or bachelorette and they aren't really friends with each other, so there wasn't really any opportunity for drama.

Why are you involving yourself in this?

bablingbrooke

No arguments between my BMs that I'm aware of.  If they whine to you just say, "I'm sorry, you need to work this out between yourselves--I'm not getting involved."  They need to grow up!

emilyinchile

Stay out of it. Just because you're the bride doesn't mean you need to play wedding referee (ditto for your FI) - they're big kids, they can figure out their own arguments.

HKD817

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[QUOTE] Why are you involving yourself in this?
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I'm not involving myself at all. I was just curious to see if anyone else had BM's that had tiffs. They have no idea that I know about their head butting

emilyinchile

Glad to hear you're not involved. The line about wanting to defend your MOH made me think you were looking for a way to do it without annoying your other friend, and there isn't really a way to do that.

526SadieSadie

They need to suck it the hell up and smile.  They're making it about them when it should be about you.  I'm sorry they're being jerks.

ErinA21086

wow...that is tough....only a few more months to go. Dont get involved because you dont want to ruin relationships!! they will work it out!

526SadieSadie

Maybe have a meeting where they can hash it all out?  You should tell them while they're all together that you expect them to get along for your sake and they can go back to disliking each other as soon as the wedding's over.  It's putting unneeded stress on you.

PeonyPrincesskdd

It's between them and not you so back off and let them handle it.  Your bridal party members do not need to be best friends and get along fantastically.  It's not realistic so don't expect it and just ignore it.  There is also nothing you can do, so let it go.