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Unwanted Groomsmen

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My fiance has two guys that he was close to in high school that he has recently been in contact with. He's only seen them a couple of times since high school and I don't think they are as close as they used to be.

I do not care for either one of these guys. One has severe anger management issues and the other just gives me the creeps. How can I tell my fiance that I would prefer that they not be a groomsman in the wedding?
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Re: Unwanted Groomsmen

  • mkruparmkrupar member
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    Has your FI said he wants these two friends in the wedding party? You can't tell him who to have on his side of the WP, and he can't tell you who to have on yours. It's up to him to decide who his nearest and dearst friends are, anger management issues, creepiness, and all. You won't have to have much contact with them. Let your FI deal with any issues that involve the GM.

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  • banana468banana468 member
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    I have to echo PPs.  Unless these are people who have done things directly to you, I'd let it be. 
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  • bablingbrookebablingbrooke member
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    You can't.  Unless they made a serious pass at you, tried to hurt you, or did anything else to YOU, you don't get to tell your FI they can't be GM.  How would you feel if he said he didn't like two of your BM and they had to leave the WP?
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  • megk8ozmegk8oz member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_unwanted-groomsmen?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:f53e8461-2f5d-46e1-a0c1-b40c660c132bPost:18fce777-2b4f-43cf-bf64-93e0df62a291">Re: Unwanted Groomsmen</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>You don't. Unless "anger management issues" means "has physically assaulted me or someone else in the wedding" and "creepy" means "has tried to sleep with me," you just smile sweetly and accept that you're not going to love all your FI's friends.</strong> On your wedding day, they will not affect your happiness. You're hardly going to be chatting with them during the ceremony or the pictures, which are the only times you're obligated to be right with them, and there will be enough other people to hang out with during the reception that you can avoid them.
    Posted by emilyinchile[/QUOTE]

    This. All of this. But especially the bolded part.

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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
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    After I posted this I read some other posts and came to the same conclusion that everyone here has told me: I don't get a say in his choices. I could probably live with the creepy one if he chooses him, but the one with anger issues I would have a harder time with. While he hasn't harmed me, he has physically attacked people previously, and I would just prefer to avoid any thrown punches or physical attacks on my wedding day. I guess I'll just have to cross my fingers and toes and pray that he doesn't pick either of these two guys.

    Thanks everyone for the input!
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