Wedding Rivalry with MOH...kinda long!

mlee116

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lalap69

I think your mom has given you good advice.  She sounds really self-absorbed.  I'd just avoid talking to her about the wedding at all.  This makes her look bad, not you.

emilyinchile

Your mom's given you solid advice. That sounds frustrating, but there's nothing you can really do about it - I don't think talking to her would do anything except hurt her feelings, it doesn't sound like something she would recognize and then change. As far as your bach party goes, just try to ignore it. You'll be hanging out with your best girlfriends doing something fun, so don't let one self-centered friend get you down.

banana468

Ditto - I think your MOH is rather self-involved at the moment.  Stop talkiing about your wedding with her.  If she actually asks why you did so, just say, "It didn't seem necessary to bring it up since we appear to be having the same event based on every comment you make."

xoxob

She probably feels entitled to talk about it because she talked about your wedding with you (doesn't mean she is right).

I agree with everyone else. Your mom gave you really good advice. At your bach party, if she does it, I think you would be in the right to pull a bean dip. "Wow, MOH, that sounds awesome. Hey look at this...."

mbcdefg

I doubt she's doing it to compete with you. It's probably just because you have something similar to talk about now that you are both planning weddings.

Also, does she have a tendancy to turn things around to focus on herself a lot? If so, then this is just par for the course ... some people just like attention and talking about themselves. If not, then maybe she's just excited about her wedding.

I agree not to bring up your wedding around her, and also to change the subject if it DOES come up. Try to ignore it. I'm sure she means no harm.

jaimed99

I'm really glad I'm not the only one with this problem...

My MOH isn't getting married (she's actually married to my ex...yeah, it's funny), but she and I share alot...we share my daughter (she is my daughter's SM), and we both have sons 7 months apart (hers is older).  Every time I try to say something about the upcoming wedding, or if my son does something awesome (he's 9 months old, so he's doing alot of new things every day!) she has to say, "Oh, well (my son) is doing this and this" or "when (my ex) and I have our vows renewed, we're going to be doing this and this"...she's even so self-absorbed to the point where when I texted her the other night to tell her that my best friend's dad passed away (he'd been in the hospital since Wednesday and MOH was there when my friend called), her response was "I'm so sorry, give her a hug for me...btw (my cat) caught a mouse." SERIOUSLY?!?!?!

My point is, if your friend is like this normally (as mine is), and you were aware of it, then accept it as something she does and either ignore her when she tries to play her "one-up" game, or bean dip her...because knocking her out isn't an option! 

If this only happened since she started planning her wedding, try to just be happy for her...she's probably just really excited and wants to share her awesome plans with you. Once your wedding is said and done, she'll still be waiting for hers, right?