Wedding Party or No Wedding Party..that is the question...

FutureMrsNelson52612

I am going back and forth on whether or not to have a bridal party.  My problem is that the potential party (bridesmaids) would be 11 or 12 girls.  Obviously, that's huge!  All of these girls are very close friends that I have grown up with and it's an all-or-nothing deal, I would never chose one over the other.  My fiance wouldn't have the same amount on his side, but I'm okay with that since we could just have the groomsmen wait at the altar and the girls walk up alone.

Our only alternative is to only have a MOH/Best man and possibly one other bridesmaid and groomsman.  I am pretty sad about this alternative, but think it may be better cost and organization-wise.  

Opinions please!!!

tiffysue2012

You could have one MOH and one BM. Or you could have all 11 girls and all of however many he has.... The decision is really up to you guys.... I suggest you sit down and really think what to do really want... do you really want to have that many people up there with you guys or do you want it to be just the two of you standing up in front of everyone. Ask yourself... "What means more to me?"

megannie

It is my second wedding, and I have one daughter, five sisters, and five really close friends that have been in my life for a long time. I added so much stress to my life trying to figure out who to have in my wp and who to leave out. I heard so many comments about size and too many and got wrapped up in what everyone else thought/would think and spent too much time upset and stressed by it........until my fiance' sat me down one night, and said, close your eyes. Picture our wedding day. When you are getting ready, and the girls are all around you in their dresses, and you are getting into yours, picture yourself opening your eyes and seeing their faces. Who do you want to see? The answer? All of them. So I asked them. All. I have a maid of honor (my daughter) a matron, and nine bridesmaids. And you know what? We are incredibly happy about it. The "girls" are all excited, so are the guys........we don't have as many  guys, but that's ok with us, and we are all looking forward to the experience of the planning and the day.
I get snide comments sometimes. Someone hurtfully commented about our wedding as a "circus" the other day, but you know what? At the end of the day it's about him and me, and what we want. He loves the idea. So do I. And so do our wp. So, I say. Do what YOU want to do for YOUR day. That's all that matters.
My fiance' says that everyone can talk about it all they want. Good or bad. He isn't going to waste any time caring what anyone else thinks, and I have learned to let it go.
It was our decision. And we made it happily. And that's what really counts.
Can't wait to see it all come together, and to spend the day surrounded by my besties.

Maggie0829

Don't worry about numbers.  What it should come down to is who you want standing up there with you.  If that means you have 12 BMs then so be it.

FutureMrsNelson52612

Thank you ladies for taking the time to give this some thought 

BeachBride1216

I didn't have a bridal party the first time around and although I feel like I missed out on some of the bonding associated with it, I also missed out on all the drama that comes with a bridal party.