In a bind...

aa1293

So for my wedding party my fiance and I decided to be completely untraditional and have both girls and guys on each of our sides.  My best guy friend is one my "bridesman" and is flying in from out of town for our wedding.  Several months back when I asked him to be apart of our wedding I knew that he was going to be spending quite a bit of money on airfare, hotel, etc. so I offered to pay for his tux rental. I have just recently switched careers and have taken a much lower income job and am afraid I can't afford to buy his rental now.  I don't know what the appropriate thing to do is. Do I just bite the bullet and pay or should I ask him if he can cover the cost? Do I offer going 50/50? Any advice is appreciated!

aerinpegadrak

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[QUOTE]So for my wedding party my fiance and I decided to be completely untraditional and have both girls and guys on each of our sides.  My best guy friend is one my "bridesman" and is flying in from out of town for our wedding.  Several months back when I asked him to be apart of our wedding I knew that he was going to be spending quite a bit of money on airfare, hotel, etc. so I offered to pay for his tux rental. I have just recently switched careers and have taken a much lower income job and am afraid I can't afford to buy his rental now.  I don't know what the appropriate thing to do is. Do I just bite the bullet and pay or should I ask him if he can cover the cost? Do I offer going 50/50? Any advice is appreciated!
Posted by aa1293[/QUOTE]
Yup, you've made a commitment and you have to honor it.  Tuxes aren't that expensive, surely you can trim some fat from the budget somewhere.  All your guests are going to care about is that they're fed, watered, and having a good time, so things like centerpieces, favors, programs, etc. are good places to scale back.

Ali092011

I agree with PPs. Especially considering he is traveling, you need to find a way to cover the tux like you said you would.

Maggie0829

Since you made a commitment to pay for his tux you really cannot back out now.  Like PP have mentioned there are ways to cut back your wedding budget in smaller areas to help make up the money for the tux.

kmmssg

Agree with the others - you made the commitment, so you need to keep it.  Cut out any restaurants, cable, Starbucks, coffee/pop at the gas station.  

I kid you not - my master degree'd sister in law (teacher) donated plasma all Summer long to earn some extra money because she has a very expensive hobby - horses.  Earned almost a grand donating twice a week.  Just saying...