My fiance has grown up with one of his groomsman since they were in middle school.Brett(my fiance) asked him to be in our wedding and he said yes.Our wedding is October 8th,which just happens to be his friend's(Colin) 21st birthday.We asked him if he could be comitted to our wedding becuase of his birthday and he said yes of course. Well yesterday I emailed him asking if he still planned on bein in this wedding because we have not heard from him. He goes on to say that he is just going to come and watch becuase "he only turns 21 once". Well in my opinion, your oldest friend only gets married once.Its not my fault that he chooses to choose partying than being included in his best friends wedding.Is my opinion wrong?