My fiance has already asked my brother to be his best man, which I'm really happy about. But until this point, I wasn't sure I wanted to have a WP at all.
I don't have any sisters or a best friend, I'm not close to any of my cousins, my fiance doesn't have any relatives (he's the only child of only children). I can't think of anyone I would ask to be my MOH. My closest friend is really my brother's ex-girlfriend, who my father can't stand and who has a really awkward relationship with my brother (they broke up in January after seven years together), and, honestly, my affection for her isn't strong enough to want to overcome that. (I know that sounds cold; she is a dear friend, I just couldn't think of any other way to express it.)
I guess the best explanation, apart from having a small family, for the situation, is that I was in a really toxic relationship from my teens to my mid-twenties, and I didn't make many friends during that period, and then when I got out of that relationship I lost or got rid of most of my and my ex's mutual friends. That was several years ago. Then last year I moved back to my hometown, where I only know a handlful of people. I do have close friends who I would ask to be bridesmaids (or bridesmen- I'm really not limiting myself to female attendants), but no one to whom I'm excited about saying, "Will you be my MOH?"
How weird would it be if FI had a best man (but no groomsmen) and I had bridesmaids (but no MOH)?
I'm still in the preliminary planning stages, so I'm not freaking out yet or even to the point where I would ask anyone, but I am starting to feel like I need to make some close friends so that I can have a MOH, which seems really backwards.
These board seem to be full of ideas I'd never think of, so any help would be much appreciated.