I was one of those silly girls who went with my gut when it came to asking my bridesmaids (and much earlier than I needed to I'm sure), and one snap decision with a friend I went to college with has bothered me ever since.
We were talking over lunch about wedding party stuff and she said she was hoping to be my maid and when she gets married she was planning on asking me to be in her party, and we'd had some good times together (she also got me a job teaching at her school which I'm so thankful for) and so I asked her.
She is not a very reliable friend, cancels a lot or has excuses for why she can't do things with me, which I already knew, but she has changed her lifestyle, grown distant, refuses to do things with my maids including shopping for dresses because she says she's too big for them (but she won't go on a serious diet even though I offer to help her since I'm on one too.)
I know kicking her out of my party would be horrible, and I can't really since we work together and all, but I'm not sure what to do. I've told her that I feel she doesn't really care and that it hurts my feelings, but she just says she doesn't mean to hurt my feelings and nothing changes. Is there any advice on what I can do? Because it sucks to regret asking her, but I feel like she doesn't give a *bleep* about me or being in the party and it feels crappy!!
Hope I don't sound bridezilla like, it just hurts to feel like your bridesmaids don't care
Advice to others - think reallllly hard before you ask your girls!!!!