I am struggling with what kind of officiant to have for my wedding. I am Jewish, and was raised that way although in a reform and reconstructionist temple. I had my Bat Mitzvah and that was the last time I was formally involved in religion. I celebrate Hanukkah and Passover with my families and up until the last 2-3 years have attended Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur services. My mothers side of the family is more religious and I don't have much involvement with my dads family. I identify myself as being Jewish and never have or would consider converting but have definitely have not been an active participant in Judaism in a long time. That being said my FI was raised Unitarian by his parents (his father was raised Jewish) and no longer identifies with any religion. We celebrate Christmas and Hanukkah in our home and Easter with his family. He attends all the religious functions/dinners with my family.
We had originally planned to have a non denominational ceremony with Jewish aspects (Ketubah
(We picked this one with text Interfaith IV), Chuppah (we are building our own), breaking of the glass), however as we get closer to the wedding and still haven't chosen an officiant, the more strongly I feel about having a Rabbi perform the ceremony and have at least a partially religious ceremony with the prayers that I learned as child being spoken, doing the blessings over the wine and bread, etc. FI is open to the idea of an interfaith Rabbi (?) doing the ceremony but he doesn't want references to G-d and I know that would not be possible.
I know that I could go back to the non denominational ceremony and just have the few pieces of Judaism but I just keep having the overwhelming feeling that I am going to regret it one day.
ETA: The wedding is on a Sunday afternoon so there will not be any Sabbath conflicts.
Has anyone else gone through this? Any suggestions? Thanks!
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