My father died 8 years ago from cancer when I was 17. I'm getting married in Israel in June. My father was born in Israel and so was I. My fiance's father is Israeli so we all have a very strong connection to Israel.
Ideally, he would have been there with the rest of my family under the chuppah. I was wondering if there is a tasteful table I can set up during the reception in his honor. I was thinking of a picture of him and I with a little candle. I don't want people to dwell on the fact that he's not there and to make everyone depressed but I just feel that he should be acknowledged.
Any suggestions for a way to honor the memory of my father without bringing everyone down?
Another issue is that my sister is not speaking to my Israeli family members because our aunt did not include her in my father's memorial twice. My sister was out of the country on business and my aunt never tried to re-schedule the memorial so that my sister could be present. On top of that, my sister heard that our cousins have been talking about her behind my sister's back. Jealous issues. So my sister has not been speaking to that side of the family for over 2 years. She expects me to not speak to them either out of loyalty to her and our father because she feels that it was an insult to our father as well.
Personally, I feel that they have issues with her and what they did to her was mean but for my wedding, I need to still invite them and be courteous to them. My sister has forbidden me from communicating with them without her permission. She claims she will get their mailing addresses for me but everything has to be on her terms or else she starts to threaten to not help me with the wedding. Now I'm super nervous because my fiance's aunt is throwing me a traditional Libyan henna party the week before the wedding and it's mostly for only family. Which means I will need to invite my family and I don't know if my sister is prepared to see them both at the henna party and at the wedding.
What to do?