OK so the guest list has been a source of stress for me because I have a big family and FI's family is teeny-tiny. I felt really bad and we talked about not inviting kids to limit things. Well, last night we sat down and counted people on his side and people on my side and didn't include our friends. Turns out we have the exact same number because he wants to invite friends from work and family friends!! Yayyy!! I'm so relieved. And we counted the maybes in with the final head count and I explained that I need to invite the kids in my family. The kids (my cousins) aren't super young and I just don't feel right inviting some and not others. So our total including maybes and kids is 97 - lower than I thought! We were thinking 80, but 97 feels doable. I'm so happy it's done!
Now onto catering... flights are really expensive right now and I'm wondering how long we can reasonably wait to start meeting with caterers... what do you guys think?