I'm going to make a very long, drawn out story short:
A little over a year ago, my FI and I took a trip down to Raleigh with his best friend from high school "Murder" and my cousin. That weekend Murder and my FI's twin did nothing but talk about me behind my back and made me and my FI feel very uncomfortable. It ended in a HUGE blow out where I threw sunglasses at my FI's twin and Murder was crying because he knew that he was loosing one his best friends to a girl. My FI's twin and I are fine (only because we have to be...I'm still not sure to this day if I actually respect him) but I do not talk to Murder. My FI barely talks to Murder.
When push came to shove and we were deciding our wedding party, my FI asked Murder to be a groomsman although he has not really spoken to him since the incident because he feels as though this was a best friend of his and he still wants him there to share in our special day. I was furious. I do not trust this kid as far as I can throw him and the last thing I want is to be insulted yet again on a day in which should be all about me and my FI. He didn't care about either of our feelings then, whats to say he's going to care about our feelings on June 23rd, 2012? And he's going to be with my FI's twin brother and when the two of them get together it is like you are dealing with two 11 year old boys. My FI has told me there is no way he's changing and this means the world to him. Murder has made no attempt to contact me and apologize, even though my FI has asked him to do so several times.
I have decided that I needed to take the first steps. I sent him a facebook message with my # that said "We need to talk, please call me." I feel like the issue needs to be resolved and we need to push past it. Maybe if we do have a heart-to-heart, things will get resolved. I still harbor a lot of resentment towards him. I do not want to feel like this a year from now. Am I doing the right thing? How would you handle it?