I know in the end I'm the only one who can make this decision but I really need some advice. I can't decide who to choose as my MOH, and preferably the only one standing up with me.
I have 3 sisters; one lives on the other side of the country, the other will be the one helping me the most with the wedding, and third, I'm just not close with at all.
The one I've been closest with lives on the other side of the Country and when I mentioned the possibility of her being standing up with me she really didn't seem to want to. She was very down on it and just gave reasons why she wouldn't really be a good choice. I could just tell her, I love her and those reasons don't matter to me; but then I'm also a little weary because when I've tried to talk to her about wedding things she tends to just make jokes and completely ignore the wedding talk. The worst of the jokes is that her sense of humour is a little odd and basically consists of insults.
Another logical choice would be the sister who will be helping with the wedding and possibly throwing a bachelorette party. However, we're not all that close, and I'm not really able to completely relax around her and just be myself.
My third possible choice is a friend who I am only semi close with, but she is engaged to FI best man. I'm not in her wedding party, and although I wouldn't have a problem with her being in mine, but not me in hers, she might feel guilty/awkward. She's nice but we've never been that close. However, we may become closer since FI and I now live closer to these friends. However, I have seen her as MOH in the past and now currently, and she's very selfish about it. Once was for her sister and she didn't even want to take part in any wedding parties. Just complained about everything. Now with her friend, she has complained to me about who her friend chose as bridesmaids. She was upset that her friend show bridesmaids that she 'didn't even know.' As if the bride should have consulted with her about the BM choices?!
I could just have the 2 sisters mentioned above, but then that would be very rude to do to the third sister. I can't really have all three, because that would mean, with dates, there are 10 people at the 'head table' and only 8 will fit if we squish in. Also, I sometimes feel ganged up on when we are all together and that's the last thing I want on my wedding.
Sorry, this turned out much longer than expected! I'm just really confused and don't know what to do. I wish I had a clear choice of someone I was really close with and there was no surrounding issues. I've thought I made up my mind a number of times, but a month later, I just don't think it's the right decision anymore. Luckily, I've never officially asked anyone. I feel like I'm running out of time and really need to make a decision. My out of town sister is visiting a week from now and would like to have a decision at that time.