What do you think about.....

Rhoyal_1

 A page for FAQs on my wedding website.  Wondering, do you think I am wrong for doing this?  And if not, let me know if these questions and responses appear ok.  Suggestions, suggestions???

What time does the ceremony begin?
The wedding ceremony begins at 1pm.  All guests must be seated BEFORE 1pm. 

Will I be permitted in after the ceremony has started? 
No, to avoid interruptions you will not be permitted in once the ceremony has started.  See FAQ #1.

What can I wear to the wedding?  Is there a dress code?
Please do not wear jeans, t-shirts, sneakers, Timbs, and/or caps to our wedding.  Dress should be appropriate for a formal wedding.

Do I have to attend the reception if I RSVP "yes, will attend"?
Yes.  It is considered uncouth  to not attend a reception after you have replied you will be in attendance.  Remember, the hosts of the wedding have payed for your entree in advance.  Should an emergency occur one would understand.

What if I do not RSVP?
Common courtesy is to return the reply card stating you will attend and designate which entree you prefer.  Unfortunately, if you do not RSVP you will not have a seat at the reception.

Can I tell the DJ what to play?
No.  To request songs, please use the Music Request application on our website.  All requests will be reviewed and forwarded to our DJ prior to our wedding date.

What are your thoughts ladies???

hunee=pye

I was like Whoa. LOL. Im thinking maybe you can take the questions away and just make a statement. 

Rhoyal_1

LOL!  I went back and read it without the questions and see what you mean.  I was looking at the dress code part and started to think about the ppl we invited and I am pretty sure they all know better than to show up looking crazy!  LOL  See, this is why I use AAW!  Keeo the suggestions coming!!

ufsweetiebear

I like the idea... but you may want to reword a bit. The response to the RSVP questions are very true, but may offend someone. I'd remove the "common courtesy"  and "uncouth" parts. Just my opinion though!

mahoganieyes

What time does the ceremony begin?
The wedding ceremony begins at 1pm. Please be aware any guests arriving late during the bridal party entrance, will have to wait to be seated till the bride has walked down the aisle. 

What can I wear to the wedding?
Black Tie Affair

RSVP
Please be aware we have limited seating, please rsvp by the deadline to insure a seat is reserved in your honor. Also please notify the bride or groom of any last minute emergencies if you're unable to attend the wedding after your rsvp been submitted.

What kind of music are you playing?
Please checkout our website dj request tab and make a request for your favorite song to be heard. All computer request will be sent to the dj and a limited number will be chosen. Thanks!

csuperstar02

^^I like mahoganieyes' suggestions. You get the information across, but it's not too harsh, imo.

We all understand the why behind these FAQs and answers, but I think your guests to whom the information doesn't apply could easily be offended/take it the wrong way, ya know?

prncsz

The FAQ's is a good idea. FI's friend had one with similar questions I would take the advice provided in pp and apply so that it doesn't come across as rude but still gets to the point.

Rhoyal_1

Ok.  Thx Mahoganieyes for the rewording!  The funny thing is, the way I typed it is exactly how I speak...direct, to the point, and no nonsense (why is this man marrying me again?!?!  LOL)  WOW, unbiased opinions really help you see things differently!  Sometimes I can come across as harsh or overly direct, but in the end my folks still love me:)  But I will change the wording!  LOL

I will work on it tomorrow and post! 

mahoganieyes

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[QUOTE]Ok.  Thx Mahoganieyes for the rewording!  The funny thing is, the way I typed it is exactly how I speak...direct, to the point, and no nonsense (why is this man marrying me again?!?!  LOL)  WOW, unbiased opinions really help you see things differently!  Sometimes I can come across as harsh or overly direct, but in the end my folks still love me:)  But I will change the wording!  LOL I will work on it tomorrow and post! 
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Ummm I am the same way! The funny thing, I was thinking about doing a Fac page on my site. Mostly geared toward RSVP, Adults Only and Alcohol related issues.

eagles347

I know that etiquette says we shouldn't post FAQs such as these, but I just did the exact same thing last week. I plan to add more as I see fit. Here's what I put:

For your convenience, we will answer frequently asked questions for you here. If you have a question that has not been addressed, please do not hesitate to contact us via the link provided on the left of your screen.

Where will the ceremony and reception be held?
The ceremony will be held at The First Baptist Church of Macon and the reception will be held just around the corner at The Blacksmith Shop. Be mindful that there are two churches in Macon with this name. We will marry at the church on New Street.

What is the attire for the wedding?
Despite the fact that the wedding will take place in the late afternoon/early evening, the attire will be semi-formal as opposed to formal.

Will children be present at the ceremony and reception?
Children are welcome to attend the wedding ceremony, however, the reception will be an adult affair. We will be happy to assist you in securing childcare, if necessary.

May I bring additional guests to the wedding?
We plan to celebrate with as many of our loved ones as our venue will allow. Although, the ceremony site can accomodate additional guests, we respectfully ask that only invited guests attend the reception. The names of invited guests will be specified on the invitation. Thank you in advance for your cooperation.

Is it really necessary that I RSVP for the wedding?
It is extremely important that we receive a response from each invited guest so that we are able to provide an accurate headcount to our venue and caterer. If we do not receive a timely response, we must make the assumption that you have declined our invitation and will plan accordingly. If you plan to attend the wedding, please respond by the deadline on your invitation so that we may accommodate you on our wedding day.

MAGNUM06

Hi Ladies... I think the FAQs are a good idea... They actually respond to questions that people have but dont necessary want to ASK....

Rhoyal... I get your point and completely agree with you... but like the PP said... sometimes it's not the message, but the delivery... The alternate suggestions sounded pretty good.... Just use them as they apply to you...

I might add Eagles... initial "for your convenience" statement...

HTH!!!!

hisSparklett

I think the suggestions made here are very good. I never even thought of doing something like this and I think I'm going to have to add this to our website (if I ever finish it).

Rhoyal_1

@Eagles- I like your wording...mind if I "steal" some of this too?!? 

@Mahagonie- LOL..My sister and I are the same way..so imagine the three of us out together!  Peopl would probably hate us!  LMAO

@Magnum- Thx babe!  I agree, my delivery is too much office..I have to remmeber I am posting things on my wedding website, not at a staff or board meeting!

So glad to hear I am not the only one adding this to a website..I almost thought I was crazy or just tired of mess!

mrsblakemore

LMAO!!!! Off the chain!

I think it's tight. But there's a fine line between being informative and offensive. Imma need you to remove the word "Timbs". LMAO!!!!!

Eagles wording was appropriate. I may have to steal the FAQs idea.