Can I be in your wedding small vent

MrsJJohnson2B

Fi ask his close friend to be in the wedding. they were in a friends wedding together 4 years ago. The friend that got married 4 years ago, ask can he be in the wedding? WTFFi and him are not as close as they use to be . I 've only saw him once and they didnt even hang out! I dont understand how people can just ask a question like that .  Another friend whom I have never met asked him " man am I in the wedding or am I coming to the wedding" These Men!

Ladysun083

Strange..lol very strange..I think it should be unspoken obviousness (did i make that up) if you werent asked, its because they do not want you in it!!!  so dont ask!

MrsJJohnson2B

thank you

the cat

girl these men actin' like women!

mjjlaw2001

That is wild.  Unless you are asked then you are not in the wedding.  You can't put someone on the spot like that.  We had a cousin that asked to come to the wedding and FI and she are not that close.  We both have huge families so there really wasn't much room.    So he politely told her that he would do his best but he can't make any promises.  He should just politely explain that he has already planned for the size of his party and he can't add any more people.  Maybe if he has room for an usher he can make the guy an usher or something if not oh well.

mandikaykay

I just don't understand how people can be so bold.  Yes, I agree women usually do all that; these men surprise me.I am having a similar issue.  Everybody and their mama wants to be IN the wedding.  My best friend's grandmother wanted to walk in the wedding because she said she considers me like another grandchild to her.  Now yes, I did go to her house everyday after school when I was school aged, but from a technical standpoint, she is not really my grandmother, and I am not comfortable with her walking in the wedding.  I had two sets of grandparents, and now I only have one grandmother living and she will be the only one walking.  I mean, I am grateful to my best friend's grandmother, but the truth is, we are not at all related and she cannot ever replace my real grandmother.  My best friend was even embarrassed that her grandmother made this request.

yvonne614

"girl these men actin' like women!"I was thinking the same thing lol

berrytr

Unbelievable!

foxxy1

Oh honey, I had a similar issue when one of my friends already called herself a bridesmaid when I told her I was getting married. Yeah, I had to give her the long side-eye for that one. And no, she isn't one.