DOC update

oburrell

If you remember I wanted to ask my DOC to supervise the clean up after my wedding. I asked her and she told me to make a list of required clean up. Her response today was she'll do it for a fee-but I have to tell her what I feel is a good compensation. I hate when people put me on the spot like that. Everyone knows I literally have zero dollars right now so my response is, "the compensation you'll get is the warm fuzzies knowing you provided excellent customer service to a fellow co-worker and friend. you would also get glowing reviews and recommendations from me. that is worth more than money."Do you think this would work?

KJDIAMONDS

I like how you worded it -- maybe add after the wedding is over and behind you'll take her out to lunch as a thnkayou and then if you feel like it give a little gift card.... But the position she out you in SUCKS!  

Dashawn Council

PPl are soemthing they hear wedding and instantly the price goes up.  I wonder if she was coordinating a bday party if there would be a fee to stay?? but the creative wording was great!!!! Good luck and I know your day will be wonderful with or without her help.

the cat

i find it surprising she's being this way considering her knowledge of your money situation. This isn't just a "vendor". You guys know each other. Y'all not BFF but still; y'all work together. To be honest, if u end up having to pay her, I'd give that money to someone else to do the job. Don't give her another penny. I know business is business, but still...

alfdallas21

hey oburrell - girl I like your wording and adding kjdiamonds few words to the end (should you want to extend that offer) would be great...but on the real, this DOC/co-worker isn't working with you, she seems to me as though she's putting more stress on you...have you already paid her for the wedding/reception services???...I'm just concerned that she's trying to squeeze more $$$ out of you when you are just asking if she could stay & clean the venue at the end of the reception...

oburrell

It's funny because I've been thinking that I am not happy with her anymore. It's not because I can't have my own way, but I feel like her attitude is ,"I'm only charging her $250 so she should be happy with what she gets." Just because I'm on a  budget doesn't mean I don't deserve good customer service. I have already paid her a $50 deposit. I considered cancelling her, but I need a DOC to be there to open the venue doors and tell the vendors where to go and etc. And I don't know if I will have to pay her the full amount for cancelling so close to the day.

MrClintonsFirstLady09

oburrell, I read everyone's comments prior and I do agree your ettiquette was on point. But this is my $0.02 on the situation because I have a coordinator and I am paying her as well. Clean up is included in her duties for that day. I thought a DOC was the person to handle everything the day of so the bride and groom does not have to. For her to ask you for an extra fee to clean up knowing your financial situation is very unprofessional and not much at all received well from someone you are suppose to be "cool" with. What is it with ppl and weddings. The word wedding instantly skyrockets prices. She would have to clean up if she threw any other event, why should your wedding be any different. I am with Cat, chile ask someone else for the help, pay them, and don't give homegirl another penny. That's some farkel narkel bull! I would not recommend her to anyone either.

aquarius125

I have to play devils advocate here.. she is offering you a great pice for DOC and clean-up can be a beast! Maybe you guys can work it out in a contract where you pay her her an additional 75 or so normally clean up fees are 150 and it's due 30 days after the wedding. I have done that with some brides in the past who were have some $ difficulties> Ask her for a payment plan she can only say yes or no! Give it a try! GL

oburrell

I've decided I'm not going to have her stay. Remember, the word was "supervise" clean up. I didn't expect her to dirty her hands and actually help-I just wanted her to make sure everything goes back in place. However, because of her attitude, I'm not going to force someone to do something they don't want to do. I can't afford it and I don't even want to deal with her anymore. Because of this, I even didn't order linen tableclothes-I ordered linen-like disposable ones so I don't have to worry about someone returning them. I did find a friend of the family who actually volunteered to clean up-her and her husband. She is mature enough to make sure everything is everything. Trust-I will actually create vendor reviews and I will not  be recommending her to anyone.

crebre80

I am an event designer/planner. My DOC duties involve cleaning/breakdown after the event as well. What does she usually charge for her DOC and cleanup services? If she charged you 1/2 of the usual charges for her DOC services, then ask her how much she customarily charges and pay her approximately 1/2 or that, or you could take care of her clean up in your tip. Good luck!