POLL: Did you take the state of our...

aquarius125

economy as a factor when setting your wedding date?  How did you chose your wedding attendants? Did you base it off your fam? Did you feel obligated to have so and so?  We have chosen ours but I have noticed that a few of you have had some issues with attendants and I know and understand that issues arise but I need to know is this something I need to be prepared for. TIA

OFF

No we didn't factor in the economy we went for April because it's the month we met. We decided not to have attendants because I knew it would become a whiney b*tchfest. I didnt want to hear about people not like their dresses, flowers, not having money, having to actually do something etc. And I didn't want drama over who would be my MOH. However, if I could have my cats stand up for me I would

Gameplan

I didn't take the state of our economy into play but I did take the state of our household into play when choosing a date. Since we're paying for the wedding, we had to decide what we could and couldn't do. So far attendance, I knew key folks I wanted in the wedding and he knew key people as well. He has 4 sisters so that was talked about and I have brothers so that was talked about. I didn't feel obilgated to have anyone I didn't want in but I did have a friend who just told me she was in the wedding. Whatever, that is how she is. You may want to have  a sit down with people who are "slippin'" and just advise them of what you're expecting from them and watch their behavior from there.  Good luck girl.

blue19violet

Money was the deciding factor for choosing our date. Our wedding was on Saturday, April 25th but if we'd chosen Saturday, May 2nd (start of wedding season) we would have paid 20-30% more for the venue. Although they only had daytime hours available on the 25th (and I did NOT want a daytime wedding), we went with it because the word 'sucka' was not stamped on our foreheads when we were born. By the way, the cost of limos, flowers, etc... also went up significantly when we chose a May date.

the cat

The economy wasn't a factor. My father's health was. Our original date was November 21st (?) this year. We moved it up to March b/c we wanted to do our best to assure he'd be there. We did end up having to use our credit card b/c of the 8 month push forward, but made the final payment last week!!!! I chose my attendants based on their closeness to me. It was my sister, my niece, and 2 friends. If I had to do it again, my sister would be out b/c she let the DOC screw up my bustle!

oburrell

Economy wasn't a factor for setting our date. We chose that date because it was after summer classes and before fall classes started so we'd have time for our HM. Choosing my attendants was easy. My sister had to be MOH and my niece begged me to make her a BM instead of junior BM like she's been in everybody else's wedding. I had 1 cousin and 1 of his cousins that I wanted but they didn't have the money and I was NOT fronting anyone money so they got cut. I was obligated to have his sister-which sucks because she hasn't been any help at all, made faces at the dress, and didn't even come to my shower. Oh well. I'd advise you not to choose your attendants to early. People change once they find out your getting married and ugliness comes out of them. And sadly, once you've asked them to be a BM-you can't really make them step down unless you want to end all ties with them. So think carefully and trust-there will be issues.

MrsW2000

We didn't factor the economy at all when we chose our date.  As for the attendants we both chose them based off of who's closest to us.  For me it was 4 cousins and my best friend and closest girlfriend.  I didn't feel obligated at all to choose them.  I haven't had any real issues with them other than minor annoyances.

withmike

I chose my date because it was summer and I love the summer time.  We didnt take the economy into factor.  We got married within 6 months of our engagement, and it was the way that we desired it to be. 

MrClintonsFirstLady09

When reset our wedding date due to the availability of a certain venue we wanted. Our original date was 9/26. As for the attendants, I chose who I knew would be the most reliable and there was only one change when the original MOH (also my friend) backed out due to her mother's condition and if she would have to travel back and forth to care for her mother (but the strange thing is she has only left the city once since and she is making plans on what to wear to the wedding, who to bring, etc. funny huh?). We are going to pray that you do not have any issues with attendants during the planning of your wedding.  Has it shown some sign of surfacing since you started planning which makes you concerned?

romeys_bride

Nope! I said I was having this wedding the way I wanted or I wasnt having it at all! EVERYTHING worked out!

aquarius125

I am not having any problems with attendants I have a small bridal party and they are my closet friends and fam  but I am an observer and I learn from observation just as much from exprience so I just want to be prepared for the things that may come.