So I was on the South Carolina board(searching for a caterer) and I seen this post..How rude is it to invite old friends from the past to a lingerie shower or bridal shower when I know they will not be on the guest list for the wedding? I'd love to have some people to be apart of my events but there's no room left on the guest list for the reception. Also, how do you go about inviting to the wedding and not the reception (that's where my budget is killing me!!) In response I told her to have an Invitation only(private) ceremony.. and hell basically instead of helping the woman.. all the other posters sayin they don't understand what an invitation only ceremony is.. so I'm wondering how can I better explain it to them. They mainly said for the woman to have a BBQ(eww).. People in my family have had private ceremonys before where only the 2ppl gettin married and their parents were present and then they invited the family to the reception. But I guess I need another way to convey this so they can understand(although I thought it was pretty simple)Thanks