Am I tripping or what???? Long.....Sorry!

Crook251

Ok. My FI has been on low key for a while with his friends. When I say low key i'm just saying that instead of hanging out with the guys every weekend he just does it once a twice a month. He's finally come to realize that the wedding is a few months away and he's just been trying to handle busniess like he should. He told me that his friends had been calling and telling him they need to get together and talk (i'm not crazy I know they trying to plan him a party). To make long story short. Yesterday he called me on his way home from work and said he wasn't going to go workout he was going to come over and chill with me and our son so we could take care of some busniess. I get a call from him later and he tells me he had just gotten bombarded  by his friend and they were going out to eat. So a little dissappointed, I said ok. He finally gets to my place and is very brief with everything I ask him. I told him he didn't have to act that way with me, because I knew what they were up too. After I thought about the situation i got a litte upset. His friends know me very well.  I don't like the fact that they all are trying to hide things from me. What I really didn't like was how they can't seem to respect the fact that my FI is trying to do what's right. The sad thing about their so call "wedding planning" they ain't get the stuff done that really matters the most like Finding a Tux and sticking with it.Honestly, am I just tripping or does it look like we have a minor problem?

rhodesign

I'm confused--his boys want to plan a bachelor party for him or something, but they're hiding it from you? I need a little more clarification.

Lady Redrum

I'm confused too. What do you feel that they are hiding?

Ladysun083

Um.you think they are plainning his B party? .if you think they are planninging a bachelor party then you don't even have a minor problem...if they are sneaking to do it maybe they are doing so because they believe that you would have a problem with it.. Don't stress its nothing, I wouldn't turn this into something...Let this one ride.

jonsmeshondra

I agree w/Ladysun...unless I'm missing something too.

adgenya

I think they may just want to see their friend and this was the only idea they could come up with. I'd let it ride.

marriedsaywhat??

You sound a little bit like me........mind if I ask how old you and he are (just asking)?  Ok so I understand the bachelor party thing...I mean what woman wants a stripper (presuming this is what they are hiding since you think they are trying to plan the B-party) all over their man??? Nobody! I didnt want one all over mine at all but honestly I was sooooooooooo busy with stuff that if it was going on, I didnt have time to pay attention. I would say not to stress about it though....I mean maybe ask him about it in a discreet way but like the other ladies said, dont turn "nothing" into something. My FI and I agrued non-stop while I was planning the wedding b/c I felt like he was not pulling he weight at all and really, it was me stressing but he still wasnt pulling his weight. Let this one ride out as long as he is doing what you ask him to do then I wouldnt worry about it to much. Now when the important stuff starts getting pushed to the back...LET HIS AZZ HAVE IT LOL....

aquarius125

Don't make a big deal out of it! BE EASY!! You only live once and hopefully this will be his only time to enjoy this let him have fun. You should!

Crook251

Thanks for the responds ladies. Yea i'm sure they are planning a bachelor party, which I have no problem with.  The best man came to me and told me he was thinking about the guys just going out to the casino, as well telling me everything they weren't going to do(no strppers). My thing is don't tell me one thing and do another and then I have to hear about it in the streets.I haven't and i'm not going to make a big deal out of it, just wondering if I was wrong for feeling the way I felt. Ohh yea.... we are between the age of 25 and 31. (someone asked me that)