Bridesmaid drama... how would you respond to this?

futurescbride

We are having a huge wedding party which was really a bad idea. Anyway... I have 8 bridesmaid and 2 MOH. Only 4 of them RSVP'd to my shower and I was sad but then I was like "whatever". So, one of the 4 was supposed to come into town on Friday but called and said that her appt ran late so she would be here early Saturday morning. My shower started at 3pm and I got a text message from her at noon that said "Sorry but I'm not going to make it dont feel like driving c u in oct". I did not even send a text back because I was trying not to let her ruin my day. Plus, she still owes me money for the dress that I bought in February and she was supposed to pay me at the shower. How would you respond to that? I'm about to turn bridezilla and do some chopping!

brobin01

First of all, Congrats on your shower! i hope you had fun. Please don't let any of these chicks get to you or upset you b/c after all is said and done..nothing matters but you and hubby, just sit back and observe how these heffa's are treating you during this time and remember all the drama when it's their turn to get married and they expect things out of you that they didnt give to you during your time....I would say wait a few days to calm down and ask her about the money. BTW, your bio is very nice! 

alfdallas21

hey futuresc - I hope you had a great shower regardless...now down to your question, I agree with brobin01, cool out for a few days and then txt that BM and ask her when is she going to reimburse you for the dress as you need that money by XYZ date NOT the day of the wedding!...let me say this (and I hope you don't take offense) but homegirl would be cut not because she didn't attend the shower but because of the way she contacted you - with a damn txt msg saying she doesnt feel like driving...WTF!!...she knew ahead of time that she was gonna have to drive so why all of a sudden she can't do it...you have 8 BM & 2 MOH, so if you cut her would you feel totally bad??...based on her response to your inquiry about paying, that will help me make the final decision of cutting her or not because if she comes back with a lame excuse why she can't pay, then that would do it for me cuz she's had since FEBRUARY to pay you...JMHO.

Panda16

It's just another case of other ppl being selfish. Aside from the fact you have a big bridal party, you chose them for a reason...to be there for you. Of course, they have lives of their own so it's understandable if some couldn't make the bridal shower. But to promise to show up, then to send a text message like that is just rude, wrong, and inconsiderate.Like pp's said, just text her back and say "no hard feelings, I AM still waiting on the money back for the dress."

Crook251

Wow! Some people really have a way of showing who they really are. I'm with the others on this one. I wouln't even text her  back because something like that needs to be said and not read. Just tell her she missed a good time, however you  called because you needed to make more arrangements on getting your money back for the dress. Good luck!

HisWifey82

Simply put....I would cut her arse....that was rude and not even called for....HTH