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I am considering pushing our wedding date back like 7mths (after graduation). We are both in school=broke! We are buying a house=broker!! my moms is turning 50 he is turning 30 ( this year 1 month apart) =really broke! My business is slow= too dayum broke! (does anyone need any chair covers :) (just joking) I know the wedding is no until next oct but it is in the middle of the semester before graduation =stressed but i didn't want school to run my life (HM on fall break) I guess I'm just intimidated with all that's going on right now. i know we will spring back but geez i need some air to breath! BTW FI is totally against this! I just don't want to bee stressed out when wee could wait and be cool or at least school will be out!

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    braxtongirlbraxtongirl member
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    edited December 2011
    Wow that is deep chica. My FI's 30th and 50th were in the same year and threw them both big parties so I know how much that can be. Maybe you should talk to your groom and ask him about the financial plan for this wedding and where the money is coming from.  Maybe that may change his throught process. Just me, doing anything with school at the same time is a no, no. I told FI straight up, we are not getting married until after I finish school. You got to plan as well and that is alot on your plate.
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    edited December 2011
    I personally wouldn't move it back. So many things can happen in your favor. In a sense u r borrowing trouble in that you're broke b4 u know u broke! Also, I like to do everything at one time so when I settle down I'm not concerned with what I have to get all geared up to do. U get through the whirl wind of activity and you're done...and married to boot! Besides, the man above will allow what's only is His plan, so follow His lead and u won't go wrong! Think it out chic!
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    edited December 2011
    Wow.  We are so similar. Fi andI in school too and our graduations are after our wedding the same semester. We anticipated the stress and hired an affordable planner. We ain't rich either and sometimes I complain about being "poor" and this sounds corny but he pulls me aside and says we will always have each other. I know it is tough and it seems like alot going on but trust your man and yourself and keep the date as is. I know we all are not physically there but we are HTH online.Cicy
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    edited December 2011
    I totally understand the whole broke feeling - state of being. There are days when I wonder what the heck I was thinking, and I wonder where the last 6000.00 we need is going to come from. I agree with Cat, I wouldn't push things back, and I agree with the other pp's - talk it over with Fi. Things seem worse than they really are sometimes, and like I have learned. . . I may not get that cake I really wanted, which made me sad - but I get the man God has for me - cutting the cake cost was a small sacrifice. I will pray for you.
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    edited December 2011
    Can you keep the same date, but scale things down to your budget? Do a lot of DIY, buy things as you go that you need so that you don't have to worry? Smaller guest list--immediate fam and closest ride-or-die friends only?
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    bridecharismabridecharisma member
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    edited December 2011
    Since you're wedding isn't until next october, i think you still have some wiggle room to think about it. I'm not sue what type of money you're looking to spend, but I wouldn't make any quick decisions right now. 12 mos is more than enough to plan a wedding, take the next month to think it over. Look at your income and see what you can save monthly. Also prioritize whats most important right now to you. Also whats the significance of 7 months, do expect an increase in money, change in status, etc. If you're okay with waiting, I would probably do so. Or some people have a small wedding and then have a big wedding at a later date if thats wheat you want. Good luck!
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    aquarius125aquarius125 member
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    edited December 2011
    We are planning a small wedding 175 including everyone if we need to decrease the numbers WE WILL I have not prob with that I am very adamant about the numbers. We have help from our parents  I'm just one of those ppl who like to have a back-up plan just in case something happens and they can't contribute like planned. Buying this house is the killer so once this is finalized we will be back on track. But I would rather own a home than rent so we are going forth with our plans. I have faith and I know that everything will be ok. Thanks for yall's support and suggestions!
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